Syaitan (Part 1)

   “Abah!” Alia datang berlari padaku dari luar pagar rumah lantas memelukku. Tangisannya yang tertahan sejak tadi mula kedengaran. Kaget, aku memeluknya kembali, “Alia. Kenapa ni? Kenapa menangis?” Aku sapu air matanya dengan sapu tangan sambil menggosok-gosok belakang Alia yang masih lagi menangis teresak-esak. Tiba-tiba kelihatan seorang lelaki yang seusia aku, berkopiah dan berjubah putih masuk melepasi pagar rumahku.

   “Kau siapa?!” jerit aku. “Maafkan saya encik. Saya Zaki. Saya ustaz di sekolah Alia. Saya yang bawa Alia pulang ke rumah,” jawab lelaki tersebut sopan. “Maafkan saya ustaz. Saya ingat lelaki mana yang mengganggu Alia tadi. Maafkan saya,” aku tunduk sebagai tanda meminta maaf, malu dengan tindakan aku yang terburu-buru.

   “Abah. Ini Abang Aki. Abang Aki…. Abang Aki…” Alia terus menangis tanpa menunjukkan tanda ingin berhenti. Aku genggam tangannya erat. Entah apalah yang telah terjadi sehinggakan anakku menangis sebegini rupa, dan kenapa pula ustaz yang seusia aku ini dipanggilnya abang? Banyak yang bermain di fikiranku. Aku gelengkan kepala, cuba membuang rasa tak sedap hati yang tiba-tiba singgah di fikiran.

   “Alia, jom kita masuk. Ceritakan pada Abah semuanya di dalam nanti ya,“ aku pimpin tangannya masuk ke dalam rumah. Terlupa akan kehadiran ustaz tadi, aku berpaling ke arahnya, “Ustaz, silalah masuk. Kalau ustaz tahu apa yang telah terjadi, tolonglah ceritakan kepada saya di dalam.” Ustaz Zaki mengangguk dan perlahan-lahan mengekori kami masuk ke dalam. Aku mempersilakannya duduk di ruang tamu sementara aku ke dapur menyediakan segelas air. Alia masih lagi tidak ingin melepaskan aku dan mengekori aku ke dapur.

   Selesai menyediakan segelas air teh, aku hidangkan kepada Ustaz Zaki. “Minta maaflah ustaz, ini saja yang boleh saya sediakan. Isteri saya tiada di rumah,” kataku. “Tak mengapa encik. Saya faham. Saya datang pun mengejut,” jawabnya.

   “Ustaz, cubalah ceritakan kepada saya, kenapa Alia menangis sampai macam ni sekali?” “Begini Encik Ali. Saya harap encik bersabar dan jangan marah kepada Alia,” beritahu Ustaz Zaki dengan nada serius. Suaranya sedikit terketar, aku dapat rasakan dia gementar. Entah apahalnya. “Sebenarnya, Alia ditangkap basah pagi tadi…” sambungnya sambil menundukkan muka.

   “ALLAH!” aku bangun memandang Alia dengan perasaan bercampur baur. Marah, terkejut, sedih. “Alia. Apa Alia dah buat ni? Betul ke apa yang Abah dengar ni sayang?” tanya aku, cuba untuk menahan perasaan marah yang membuak-buak. Paling tidak, aku perlu mendengar penjelasan daripadanya terlebih dahulu. Alia menangis lagi. “Abah! Maafkan Alia Bah. Alia tak sengaja. Alia betul-betul tak tahu. Alia sayang Abang Aki. Ampun Bah,” jawabnnya sambil melutut di kakiku.

   Tangan aku terketar-ketar menahan kemarahan. Aku berpaling menghadap Ustaz Zaki meminta penjelasan. “Maafkan saya encik. Sebenarnya saya juga cintakan Alia…” Belum sempat dia menghabiskan ayatnya, aku melepaskan satu tumbukan tepat ke mukanya. Zaki jatuh lantai. Aku genggam kolar bajunya sekemas mungkin. “KAU GILA KE ORANG TUA!?-“ jerit aku, “KAU TAHUKAN ANAK AKU BARU 11 TAHUN!!! KAU ORANG TUA KUTUK SEBAYA AKU, KAU NI SIAL KE APA BERCINTA DENGAN ANAK MURID SENDIRI!!!” aku meludah ke mukanya. Marah aku tidak lagi bertebing. Dalam kepala aku, kalau perlu bermandi darah, ustaz ini akan aku bunuh. Aku tendang perutnya, aku tumbuk mukanya bertubi-tubi, Zaki cuma mampu menjerit meminta maaf.

   Maaf? Hah! Kau dah cari pasal dengan orang yang salah. “ABAH!!!” Alia tiba-tiba datang menahanku daripada mengamuk. “Abah..-“ dalam esakan Alia merayu, “Janganlah diapa-apakan Abang Zaki. Dia tak salah. Kami cinta suka sama suka.” “Allah…” aku lepaskan Zaki. Darahnya menitik ke lantai dan Zaki mengerang kesakitan.

   “Anak Abah. Apa yang Alia cakap ni sayang? Abah hantar Alia ke sekolah bukan untuk bercinta sayang. Alia masih muda. Siapa yang mengajar Alia benda-benda begini?” aku bertanya kepadanya, lembut, lalu duduk di sebelahnya. “Alia nak kahwin dengan Abang Aki Abah…” Aku kelu, tak mampu berkata apa-apa. Anakku yang usianya baru setahun jagung, makan dan minum masih lagi aku mampu berikan, sudah berkata-kata mengenai hal perkahwinan? Mungkinkah ini suatu mimpi?

   “Alia nak kahwin dengan Abang Aki… Sebab tu Alia sanggup kena tangkap basah dengan dia. Kami dah 4 tahun bercinta Abah,” sambung Alia. “SYAITAN!!!!!” Aku bangun dan menendang kembali Zaki yang masih lagi terbaring menahan kesakitan. Aku pijak mukanya berkali-kali. Aku rasa marah dan benciku terhadap syaitan bertopengkan manusia ini tidak akan pernah habis dan berapa banyak kali pun aku pijak mukanya, tumbuk atau tendang badannya, hati aku tidak akan pernah puas sampailah nyawanya melayang di tanganku.

~Jaw~

Kenapa Hari Raya Korban Dalam Islam Tidak Kejam (Logik, Ringkas)

Yo. 

     Semalam saya sempat berbual-bual di Fb dengan beberapa orang Kristian dan juga atheis mengenai Hari Raya Korban umat Islam. Ada yang mempersoalkan dan tak kurang juga yang mengutuk sambutan tersebut. 

"Selamat membunuh binatang wahai sahabat Islam. Ritual yang tidak disenangi oleh kaum lain tapi menjadi kebanggaan oleh Jihadist. Tuhan mereka sentiasa kehausan darah sebab itu mereka (Islam) suka bunuh membunuh." -Murtads in Malaysia and Singapore

     Marah? Eloklah kalau anda like page tu dan pergi jelaskan pada orang-orang di situ dengan sebaiknya. :)   That page needs more tolerant and knowledgeable Muslims to explain things to them. Mereka akan guna sains, politik, falsafah dan macam-macam lagi untuk merendahkan Islam. Kalau ada yang pakar dalam bidang-bidang ni, bagus juga kalau boleh bantu saudara-saudari seagama kita yang sedang berusaha membetulkan persepsi buruk terhadap Islam. Bersatu teguh, bercerai roboh. Ye idok? XD

     Here are a few logical reasons I can think of which hopefully will open the eyes of anyone who thinks korban is nothing but violations of animal rights.

1. Binatang yang bakal dikorbankan akan dijaga sebaik mungkin. Diberi makan dan minum yang cukup juga dipastikan sihat dan tidak cacat.
2. Binatang tersebut perlu mencapai had umur yang ditetapkan. Tidak boleh terlampau muda atau tua. Contoh bagi lembu dan kambing, umurnya telah sampai dua ke tiga tahun.
3. Binatang tersebut perlu disembelih dengan pisau yang tajam supaya dapat mempercepatkan kematiannya. 
4. Setiap hasil daripada binatang korban tersebut, kulit, daging, organ dalaman, tulang dan lain-lain digunakan sepenuhnya tanpa pembaziran. Tidak seperti korban dalam ritual-ritual lain dimana binatang tersebut dibakar atau lain-lain tanpa memberi hasil kepada sesiapa. i.e. Holocaust.
5. Daging-daging tersebut akan dibahagikan mengikut tuan dan akan disedekahkan kepada orang-orang miskin, dibuat jamuan untuk orang ramai dan juga untuk makanan sendiri. Bukankah itu satu kebaikan? 
6. Bilangan binatang yang dikorbankan hanya mengikut bilangan orang yang ingin berkorban dan mampu melakukan serta membayarnya. Bermakna tidak ada binatang yang disembelih sia-sia tanpa ada yang menginginkannya. 

     Lagipun, saya rasa kalau nak berlebihan mengutuk Islam dalam bab ni, bukankah setiap hari juga memang banyak binatang yang disembelih untuk memenuhi pasaran daging di seluruh dunia? Kalau tak, mana nak dapat bacon, ham dan macam-macam lagi? Eh lupa. Kerbau pendek tak ada leher kira sembelih juga ke? Hehe. XD

     Korban dalam Islam ini bukanlah persembahan seperti ini:
Situasi 1: "Allah, inilah korbanku. Harap kau suka dan tidak menurunkan bala kepada aku."
Atau,
Situasi 2: "Allah, ini korban kami. Hapuskan musuh-musuh kami."
It is actually more of,
Situasi 3: "Allah, terima kasih kerana memberi rezeki yang banyak kepadaku maka dengannya aku mampu berkorban (baca:bersedekah) pada tahun ini sebagai tanda bersyukur terhadapmu."

     Hari Raya Korban dalam Islam sebenarnya lebih kepada untuk mengajar umatnya supaya tidak berlebihan dalam menyayangi harta mereka dan cinta kepada Allah yakni Tuhan Yang Satu itu lebih utama. Dengan berkorban sedikit daripada harta mereka diharapkan dapat memberi rahmat kepada diri sendiri dan juga orang lain. Well, shortly, that's it. Nak pergi beraya pula ni. Hehe. Take care brothers and sisters dan selamat berhari raya. Makan tu jangan sampai tak ingat dunia. XD

~Jaw~

SPM

Peace be upon you. Hey guys. 'Ssup?  Sihat macam biasa harapnya. n_n   This post is meant for my SPM 2013 friends. So, how's your result? Amacam? Tak ada sorang pun yang update status kat Facebook pasal keputusan SPM. Or is it only me who didn't notice? Haha. Anyway, tahniahlah sebab berjaya jugak menghabiskan hampir semua pergantungan pada zaman persekolahan. Believe me, that's an achievement. Ramai je budak sekolah lain yang berhenti separuh jalan. So, give yourself some applause. Keputusan SPM, tolak tepi sekejap. n_n   And, before I forget, to those SPM 2013 friends from MRSM Kubang Pasu, don't worry. I saw the MRSM ranking just now and yeah. We are not in a good position. Tapi, apalah sangat yang ada pada ranking. Keep calm and love KUPA. Nothing else matters as long as you learnt something you can use in your next phase of life.

So, here begins my real post. XD   Tahniah kepada mereka yang berjaya, yang kurang berjaya, kena sentiasa ingat, Allah memberikan yang terbaik buat kita. So, don't give up hope on Him.

"O my sons! Go ye and enquire about Joseph(Yusuf) and his brother, and never give up hope of Allah's Mercy, truly no one despairs of Allah's Mercy except those who have no faith." [Yusuf : 87]

I experienced what you are currently going through and I do believe that gives me some credits. From my experience, believe me, SPM doesn't mean everything. It doesn't even mean 50% of that. Jaw bagi lebih kurang 20 peratuslah. 10% untuk dapat pujian daripada orang lain. 10% lagi untuk masuk ke universiti yang elok-elok(kalau ada yang rancang nak ambil diploma atau asasi), tak pun, untuk peluang masuk ke matrikulasi(you don't need to get straight A's for entry to matriculation by the way). Serius! So, you don't have to worry much. Jadi, kalau korang merungut kat kucing pasal result, tolong hentikan. Kalau korang rasa macam diselubungi oleh awan hitam, pembawa musibah yang berpanjangan, dengan kilat sabung-menyabung macam nak sambar korang, tolong hentikan. 

What you should do now?

1. Bersyukur dengan keputusan yang anda dapat, ucap terima kasih pada Tuhan. I know it's cliche, but yeah. A good believer should do that.

2. Think a lot about where you want to further your study and who or what you want to be in the future. You are now at the stage to decide this but you can delay it a bit longer. If you need to delay it, go for matriculations or foundations in UM or UiTM. If you've decided, choose and fill in your UPU form wisely. Apa-apa pun, ukur baju di badan sendiri.

3. Chat with your parents, teachers, seniors, etc. Always ask their opinions on what options do you have, what to choose, and everything else you might need. 

4. Prepare yourself for interviews. Korang bakal menerima surat, mesej, ditelefon, dll oleh banyak pihak untuk temuduga. Universities, scholarship givers, third parties etc are itching to give their money/courses to you, as long as you are competent.

5. Always check, check and check, on news about scholarships, universities offers etc. Masa ni, boleh kata hampir setiap hari korang akan dengar benda-benda baru. These informations can be easily obtained from the associated websites, newspapers, advertisement in television, Karnival Masuk U etc. *don't forget to follow MH370 news too. n_n

6. Last but not least, enjoy your remaining holidays. Jarang sangat dah dapat merasa cuti panjang macam ni nanti. So, spend it wisely. n_n

I have nothing much too say. Just, if you have anything. Anything at all. Nak cerita pasal keputusan SPM korang ke, nak tanya soalan pasal biasiswa ke, nak tanya pasal asasi ke, nak tanya pasal USM ke, nak tanya apa-apa je. Please do. Inbox me or post on my Facebook wall or comment here or text my phone, doesn't matter any way, any time. I'll be glad to help as much as I can. May Allah bless you guys and have nice everyday. XD

~Jaw~

How Loving Animals Are

Kawaii nee

Yo minna(everyone). Peace be upon you. How are you guys enjoying the week? Good I hope. Mine is a bit coloured with sadness. The still missing plane MH370, a friend's mother passed away (takziah diucapkan. may Allah bless your mother, you and your family), the prolonged drought around Malaysia and so many more things that I can't really finish listing all of it. God knows best and may He guides us and protects all of us from harms. 

Last night, I went out for dinner with my roommate. On the way, I saw a little birdie on the floor. I tried to take it and it flew away but not that far so I gave it another try. I managed to take it and it's very small and quite tame too. It seems to enjoy sitting on my finger. Maybe because of the heat from my hands as it was cold at that time. It's not hurt anywhere. I'm guessing it's just too small too fly and maybe it fell from it's nest. Maybe. Tak tahulah. So, my friend and I tried looking for the nest but to no avail. So we put it somewhere on a tree hoping that it'll fly by the time we come back from dinner. Guess what? It was still there when we're back from dinner and out of pity, we took it to the hostel. Bagi air sikit, biskut sikit then letak dalam sangkar DIY. Haha. 

It's a cute little bird. Checked the info just now. Burung kelicap rupanya. Boleh kata burung yang banyak jugak kat Malaysia. Yellow-bellied sunbird is the English name, and... It's a female. No wonder la comel sangat. XD   No name given and no plan of giving one, but if you do think I should, could you suggest a cute name for me? Hehe. Thanks. Oh yeah. Kalau ada yang pernah bela ke apa ke, bolehlah share info sikit ngan Jaw. Apa dia makan, tak boleh makan etc. Thank you again. n_n   Dah cari dalam internet sebenarnya, burung ni makan apa. It normally eats nectar so I took a few small red flowers *tak tahu bunga apa* and tried to give it some. Too bad, the drought drained all the nectar. Kering je semua pokok. I simply feed it mineral water and some wet biscuits as suggested by a friend. Glad the bird ate it. Sedap ke tidak, tak tahulah. Asalkan makan, kira ok la kot.

So, here's the real reason behind this post. It happened just a while ago. Baru sejam tadi rasanya. I came back from lecture hall and played with the birdie for a while. Guess what, the bird's mom *I think* came to my room's window and it kinda hanged there for a while. Mungkin dia terdengar suara anak dia. They're both chirping like they're talking to each other. Mother's love. Powerful huh? n_n   Therefore, I decided to let it go. Turun bawah dengan roommate. Burung tu pun dah tak boleh duduk diam. Kicau sana kicau sini, gerak sana, gerak sini.

Another friend of mine came to see it. She played with it for a while *sampai kena berak dek burung tu. haha* and we waited for the little bird's parents to come. Serius tak masuk dek akal Jaw. Both the parents came and flew above our heads. Duduk bertenggek kat atas pokok. Dah macam tengok Bersamamu live kat USMKK. LOL. They actually chirp to each other and in a few minutes, the small bird took off and flew alongside the parents. Seronok doh tengok scene menyayatkan hati tu. Haha. However, it only lasted for a short while. That small bird really is too small to fly I guess. It sort of fell down on the stairs nearby so we took it again. We decided to take care of it for a while before releasing it again. Biar besar sikit, kuat sikit. Masa tu, biarlah dia terbang setinggi mana dia nak dan sejauh mana yang dia mampu. This is seriously a new experience for me. Memang pernah bela burung kat rumah, tapi bukan yang sekecil ni. Hope everything will turn out well insyaAllah.

The truth is, I'm really, deeply touched by these animal emotions. I love animals and every animals, if you treat them well, they'll love you too. Tengok macam mana burung-burung dalam cerita ni sayang mak dia, ayah dia, anak dia. Tengok sendiri macam mana anjing, kucing dan lain-lain binatang jaga anak diorang. They really take care of their kittens, puppies whatever. So why are there human who threw away their child? Tak cukup dengan buang, bunuh, buang dalam tong sampah. Apa ni? Kejam sangat mengalahkan binatang. Binatang macam singa pun, bukan dia bunuh banyak lembu untuk makan. Just one. Just an ox, or a cow is enough for a whole pride of lions. They kill because they need to survive, we kill? Sebab nak tutup malu, sebab nak jaga aib. Nauzubillah. Mintak simpang. May Allah protects all of us from such a monstrous deed. That's all for now. Thanks for reading. n_n

~Jaw~

Connecting People. Read, Marriage

Peace be upon you. Hi guys. A very beautiful Friday isn't it? Friday is always enjoyable for me since it's the start of my weekend. Not for most of you though. Too bad. Haha. Anyway, enjoy everyday and live it to the fullest since none of it will rewind for you if you missed something. Kalau game, bolehlah replay save data bila terlepas apa-apa event. Real life... Takde can. XD   A friend asked me to write a 'jiwang' post. I said I can't and maybe, this is a good enough replacement? Haha. I hope so. So why do I choose to write about this?

Let's see... Rasanya idea ni mula-mula datang masa cuti seminggu yang lepas. My mom was driving and I sat quietly beside her when she suddenly said, "Fulan si kawan abang tu dah gatal nak kawen abang tau? Pening kepala mak dia. Macam mana nak bagitahu bagi habis belajar dulu." I did my eyyy??? face and wanted to reply, "Mak, dia pun dah tua. Kasi jelah dia kawen. Perempuan umur 25 nak kahwin abang rasa, abang rasalah, dah betul dan sesuai sangatlah tu." Akan tetapi, disebabkan hamba ini segan sikit nak sembang pasal kahwin ni dengan mrs. mommy, hamba cuma reply, "Oh, dengan boifren dia la tu." Huhuhu. Oh by the way, I must tell you that I'm thinking here using a Muslim's point of view. I know many of my non-muslim friends who are quite against early marriage, even some Muslims do. Well, for them 25 is early, not for me. Haha. However I must tell you this, for Muslims, couple-relationship is not something to be taken lightly. Simply said to make non-muslim understand, it's something not allowed in many situations. I repeat, many situations but not all. For you, a man and a woman hanging out together, eating together etcetera-ing together is something normal but, in Islam, it's not allowed except if a family member is also there and he or she must be old enough to think what's good and bad. So, to avoid this, Islam encourages marriage. n_n

The situation at this moment, I see my friends, younger, older, peers, many of them are thinking of getting married and quite a number of them have this so called 'calon terbaik untuk aku'. Haha. It's very funny because this is the exact 'noun' I've been hearing since I was 14. Kapel kapel dengan 'calon terbaik untuk aku' tu, last-last break jugak. LOL. *jahat sungguh gelakkan kawan* Sorry. XD Anyway, what I'm trying to say here is, if you're still young, just don't pay so much attention on this kind of things. Bukan apa. Benda diluar kawalan orang kata. When you grow older, you'll see more of that 'calon terbaik untuk aku' and with so many choices, how can you say they're the best? n_n   Senang sangat kita melayan perasaan yang dok bertukar-tukar. Sekejap dia tu, sekejap dia ni. LOL. Mainan perasaan semua tu. Just stay single and wait for the right time. How to know it's the right time? I think I kind of know how, so keep reading. XD *LOL-ing for the same mistakes I made. muehehe*

You see, the younger people nowadays tend to think early marriage is a good thing and in contrast to that, the older generations think early marriage is mostly a disaster. Bukan semualah, tapi ini yang Jaw nampak. The younger ones, in a way, I can say that they're religiously conscious but in another way, they're lacking in experience. I'm not saying the older generations are not religious though. They're just more experienced with life that they include in their frame of thinking not only religious values but also their life experiences. Kita yang muda ni fikir mudah je. Kena kahwin cepat, tak baik kapel lama-lama. Kena kahwin cepat, berdosa kapel ni. Kena kahwin cepat, aku nak anak 3 sebelum umur 30. Haha. Express baq hang. Yang berumur ni diorang tak macam tu, diorang fikir jauh sikit. Nak kahwin muda, hidup sendiri pun tak stabil lagi. Nak kahwin muda, duduk pun rumah parents lagi. Nak kahwin muda, asyik tengok televisyen lagi. Lagi teruk, layan kartun lagi. *akulah tu* Haha. Macam manalah ibu bapa korang ada rasa nak bagi korang kahwin kalau dah macam tu perangainya. XD   If you do want to get married early, show them you're responsible, reliable and it's way better if you have some sort of income. Kalau tak ada, bukan tak boleh, tapi kena buat perancangan kewangan dan tunjuk dekat keluarga. Diorang masa tu gerenti bangga, "Pfft. Anak aku dah matang." Haha. I've heard some say, "Sebelum kahwin, yang lelaki kena pastikan ada 3 kunci yakni kunci kereta, kunci pejabat, dan kunci rumah." Being a man sucks la like this. Suck it up brothers. We can do this. Haha.

Baru-baru ni Jaw ada terbaca satu quote. It says 'When nikah(marriage) becomes expensive, zina(fornication) becomes cheap, so keep weddings as SIMPLE and AFFORDABLE as possible.' I agree with it 100%. Buat orang Islam, cuba fikir mengenai hadis-hadis ni:

"Carilah untuk dijadikan mas kahwin walaupun sebentuk cincin yang diperbuat daripada besi."(Riwayat Bukhari )

"Sesungguhnya wanita-wanita yang paling diberkati dan menjadi keutamaan adalah yang paling rendah mas kahwinnya." ( Riwayat Ibn Hibban) 

Both of this hadiths showed us one thing. That is cheap mahar is not a problem and in fact, it's a good thing. I'm not saying you cannot ask for fifty thousand of dowry, and I'm not saying that's expensive either. Dah kalau kau kahwin dengan jutawan, itu kira murahlah bagi dia. Mana aci mintak murah-murah ngan dia. Kenalah mahal sikit. Haha. Gurau je. It's up to you to ask for how much as long as that guy can afford it without so much trouble, insyaAllah, that will be okay. Tapi kalau sampai nak bagi mas kahwin pun kena berhutang, abang-abangku, tak payahlah. Cari lain je. Muahaha.

Finally, how to know it's the right time. I have a simple view in this matter. Once you have the candidate, get to know them better. Bukan mesti dengan berkapel. Cuba tanya kawan dia, tanya kawan kita yang kenal dia, tanya cikgu-cikgu dia, tanyalah siapa-siapa yang patut. Kalau betul yakin, part one settle. Part two, check yourselves. Are you ready to become a husband or wife? Are you ready to share everything with your spouse? House, money, cars, foods, bed, shampoo and maybe, Gundam*ehh tersesat* etc. Are you ready to become a father or mother? Are you ready to forgive and forget the mistakes of each other? Are you ready to support a family in the making? Money is the least in the list. Responsibility, trust, hard work etc comes first. There are many more but to put it simply in a single sentence, are you ready for something new, bad and good? If your answer is yes for all the questions, then I must say, the right time has come. *cakap macam dah kahwin ooo. haha*

Moh ler kiter tamatkan post ni. The points I want you to get from this are:
1. Islam encourages marriage.
2. 'Calon terbaik untuk aku' mungkin bukan calon terbaik untuk anda. Trust me. Haha.
3. Jangan marah mak dan ayah anda kalau mereka larang anda berkahwin awal. Mereka hanya risaukan masa depan anda. Masih nak kahwin awal? Buktikan kepada mereka segala positif -ble anda. Able, reliable, dependable, responsible dan segala -ble-ble yang ada.
4. Bagi lelaki, pastikan anda ada 3 kunci sebelum berkahwin iaitu kunci kereta, pejabat dan rumah. Paling lekeh pun bang, kunci pejabat kenalah ada. n_n
5. Bagi wanita, mas kahwin murah-murah pun cukuplah. Nak jadi wanita yang diberkati tak? *senyum nakal. XD*
6. Bagi lelaki lagi, kalau dah mas kahwin perempuan tu mahal sangat, move on bro. Nampak gaya macam tak nak kahwin dengan kau je. *unless she tries to help you in any way to ease the burden, just move on*
7. If you're ready for the world, you're ready for marriage. n_n


~Jaw~

Islam Teaches Domestic Violence?

This is so untrue. Refer to the Qur'an, Chapter 60 (Al-Mumtahanah), verses 8-9

Peace be upon you dear readers. n_n Hi !!! How are you guys? I'm sorry it took me a while to write a new post. I do have a few ideas and subjects to write about but I barely have enough time for my studies, let alone updating my blog frequently. Haha. However, this means you should look forward to more interesting updates from me. n_n   My sincere apologies too, to some of my readers who requested me to write on certain things because I cannot do it now, but if God wills it, I will write it as soon as I find the time. n_n By the way, please pray for me and also my friends because in about one week, we'll be having our first exam in 2nd year. Scary. ε=ε=(っ*´□`)っ We need all the lucks we can get, thank you. n_n

The story began last Friday, right after the Friday prayer, the Imam of the masjid where I prayed invited the men to perform another optional or voluntary prayer to wish to Allah for the safety of a Muslim Malaysian couple detained in Sweden for allegedly hitting their son. There are rumors saying that they never hit their son, just reminding. Only Allah and the family know the truth. It's said that the couple will be charged tomorrow. I can't help but wonder why is it taking so long for the trial to begin though. Hmm. However, I do hope that their case will be resolved without much difficulty. May Allah bless them. My intention in writing this post is to clear some misunderstandings related to this case, to the best of my knowledge, of both Muslims and non-Muslims alike. Some of the misunderstandings I want to address are, Islam is a violent religion that teaches its followers to beat their wives and kids, which is often misunderstood by non-Muslims, then about some Muslims who said that there's no such thing as beating your kids when they don't want to pray in Islam and finally, should Muslims obey the laws of non-Muslim country when they're living there.

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Islam is a violent religion that teaches its followers to beat their wives and kids. Is it true?

Dear readers, Islam is a religion of peace sent by Allah through his messengers. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) as the final prophet, completed his task by leaving two things for the whole world to read, follow and make a habit out of them, the Al-Qur'an and Hadith. These things, if followed, will prevent us from going astray. My cherished non-Muslim readers, I strongly suggest you to get a copy of Al-Qur'an and read it for yourself. You will see that not even a sentence tells the Muslims to be violent. If you find anything like that, go ahead and find a Muslim to attack him. If Allah wills it, I'm sure he or she will give you an answer or answers to justify it. 

Friendly reminders to my Muslim brothers and sisters, do not answer if you are unsure or don't know the answer. Tell the inquirer that you need some time to check with more knowledgeable people and you will get back to it once you have the answer. To say you don't know is more noble than giving incorrect answers for me. n_n   Please let me share with you one verse of the Qur'an that may have been the cause behind this misunderstanding. 

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend from their means. Therefore, the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard. As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (then) refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them; but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means. Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.” [An-Nisa' ; 34]

Even though this verse showed a lot of positive things but still, many non-Muslims and also some Muslims often mistook it as a violent teaching partly because of the word 'beat them'. Dr. Ahmad Shafaat explained this verse in very much details especially the beating part. Summary of his long explanation:

1. Beating is to be done after due admonition and suspension of sexual relations and therefore by husbands who have some moral standards and have sufficient control over their sexual passions. Moreover, this beating is not to go on and on but is to be tried as a last step to save the marriage. Once it is clear that it is not working it is to be abandoned in favor of some other steps involving relatives of the husband and the wife mentioned in the next verse (4:35).

2. The beating should not cause injury, bruise or serious hurt. Some scholars said that the beating should be largely symbolic and should be administered with a folded scarf, miswak (a teeth cleaning twig / kayu sugi) or some such things.

3. The wife has no religious obligation to take the beating and she can always ask for and get divorce any time.

4. If the husband exceeds the limits set down by Qur'an and Hadiths, the wife can take him to court and if ruled in favor, she can apply the law of retaliation and beat the husband as she was beaten. 

5. Some Muslim jurists said that beating is permissible but not always advisable because Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) intensely disliked the action. 

So, to my Muslim brothers, do not use this verse to justify yourself for wife battering. To my non-Muslim friends, please take note that, Qur'an doesn't simply tell its followers to beat people. It's only done as a last resort and not to mention all the rules and requirements which need to be fulfilled before beating them. I'd say it's most likely not done at all in a devout Muslim family. Plus, if the wife return to obedience, no further actions should be taken against them and no excuses should be made to punish them.

Beat your children if they don't want to pray. Is there such a thing in Islam?

Yes there is.

"Narrated by 'Amru Bin Syu'aib, from his father, from his grandfather he said, the Prophet (pbuh) said, "Command (teach) your children to pray when they are seven years old and beat (cane) them if they do not pray at the age of 10 and (at that age), separate their beds." (Sunan Abu Dawud, Isnad Hasan)

It's not a surprising thing for some Muslims to have not heard of this hadith since the education system nowadays is not focused on Islamic teaching anymore. However, please take note, this hadith exist therefore you cannot go and attack other Muslims saying they're kufr for creating something new in Islam.

In a paperwork by Y.B.S.S Dato' Haji Murtadza, Mufti of Negeri Sembilan, available in Web Rasmi Jabatan Mufti Kerajaan Negeri Sembilan, he wrote about 'Pendidikan Anak Dengan Solat'(Education Of Children Using Solat). He said this hadith explained about three things parents should do in the early education of their children namely *again, I'm summarizing it* :

1. Command to perform the prayers when they're seven years old

He said this command is directed to the parents where they should tell their children to pray after teaching them the requirements and rukun of solat. Islam encourages Muslims to teach their children the basics when they are still young and before they are preoccupied with works.

2. Beat them if they do not pray when they're at the age of ten

It's basically a concept of punishment for being careless. For information of non-Muslim readers, the five daily prayers are one of the most important commandments by Allah for the Muslims and to abandon the prayers is a very sinful act. That's the wisdom behind teaching the kids to pray when they are young so that they don't feel burdened by it when they're older. However, please remember that parents should not directly punish their kids when they don't perfom the prayers. Parents should try giving advices, tell stories of the Companions, and other things to their children. In fact, Islam encourages parents to be gentle (according to other hadiths and Qur'anic verses) and try to avoid from beating their kids in any way so that their children's psychological health are not disturbed. Beating the kids should come as a last resort and just like with the wives, it should not cause injury, bruise and serious hurt.

3. Separate their beds

Chilren who are ten years of age must (wajib) be given different beds especially between brothers and sisters. This aims to give them early exposure about social manners and aurah (intimate parts of human body).

Should Muslims obey the laws of non-Muslim country when they're living there?

Again, the answer is yes. Syeikh Abdullah Bin Bayyah wrote in Muslims Living In Non -Muslim Lands,

"It is absolutely essential that you respect the laws of the land that you are living in... You are living in a land in which the people are very serious about their laws, and if you break the laws, this can result in you being tried as a criminal and being sent to prison and being completely humiliated as a Muslim where non-Muslims are putting you in a cage and preventing you from your own human dignity of freedom and other things. So, it is essential that we remember that."

Sheikh Salman al-Oadah said,

"The Muslims living a non-Muslim country, even if they originally entered that country by means of forged documents, are considered to be living in their adopted country under a covenant. They must, therefore, comply with the laws of their country of residence without, at the same time, disobeying Islamic Law."

Both of these Muslim scholars said more or less the same thing. So in the case of Malaysian couple being detained in Sweden, I'd say *simply my own thought* they should just follow the laws in Sweden. My reason is, it's a sunnah and not wajib. A person will not be punished for not doing things which are sunnah and in this case, if you do it, you'll get punished. All the more reasons not to do it. Avoiding harms is also a sunnah right? However, please don't misunderstand me. I'm not saying we shouldn't follow sunnah and I'm not saying the couple is wrong *come on guys. it's an allegation, a claim made without proof* and I sincerely hope the trials will go on well for them. May Allah bless them.

Law abiding? Haha

Well, with all these explanations, are you still going to say Islam teaches domestic violence to its followers? I hope not and I pray that at least this post make the readers *and me* more interested to study about Islam. I am really sad when people say Islam is a violent religion. I hope after this, my dear Muslim brothers and sisters, we will improve ourselves, do good deeds and show good examples to the non-Muslims out there so that they're attracted to Islam. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) attracted all the Arabs in his time with his beautiful personality and we should follow him as close as we can. Please forgive me if I aggrieved any of you. Wallahua'alam. Allah knows the right.


~Jaw~

Biadab

Hello boys and girls. Welcome readers. In case there's an international reader here, biadab means rude *perasan je mamat ni...haha*. So, how are you guys? Doin' fine huh. Cool. To Malaysians and to anyone who understands Malay, don't worry, that spelling is right. Because I was confused just now whether it's biadap or biadab*just like some of you may be thinking right now*, but I've checked the dictionary and biadab is the correct one*be sure to remember that..n_n*. All right.
Lately, I've been seeing rudeness a lot, have been the victim and have been the rude-doers*that's why I hate driving*. Because I drive frequently now, I can see why my father is so stressed out after driving sometimes. Mana tak-nya, kita drive elok-elok, orang pula yang buat masalah. Kadang-kadang terkeluar juga la carut-carutan tu. Haha. Anyway, that is quite normal. The problem begins when it goes overboard. One example that happened to my father. We were on our way home to Penang from Cameron Highlands and there's this Myvi which tried to overtake the other cars in a very dangerous way. Kereta tu masuk lorong sebelah di selekoh kononnya nak tengok ada kereta lain tak sebelum memotong. It did that several times. Just imagine that. Kalau kat jalan lurus takpe gak. Apehal kat selekoh je nak memotong. And because my father was afraid if... If that car do that and suddenly a car shows up in front of the Myvi and accident happen, even us who was behind it might get involved too. Jadi ayah aku hon la kat dia and dia jadi marah. Just a bit further, we arrived at a three lanes road. That's when it lets my father overtake him and suddenly it increased it's speed and tried to hit my father's front bumper*acah*. Luckily my father managed to brake in time. Walaupun aku tahu dia takkan langgar betul-betul tapi kalaulah masa tu ayah aku terkejut ke apa dan pusing stereng mengejut, kemungkinan aku dah masuk gaung dah*untung ada bapak cool..haha*. Lepas tu kereta tu blah. You see how rude is that? Doing that to someone who thought about your safety and the others. Hah. What's done is done. Reminder to you guys, please behave on the road. Even if you curse other drivers, at least don't be the reason of other people's accident on purpose.
We shoud behave no matter where we are. By behaving it means, we should think about other people's feelings. For instance, you should behave in a restaurant. Kalau kat situ semua makan pakai sudu garpu, makanlah pakai sudu ngan garpu. Betul makan dengan tangan itu sunnah, tapi di tempat orang terutamanya di restoran-restoran mahal, restoran yang ada kelas, cara kita makan tu mungkin mengganggu diorang. Believe me, some people will lose their appetites even with a simple thing like that. Bukankah mengganggu orang itu juga ditegah oleh Nabi?
So, after reading this, let us all try to become a well-behaved person. How? I'm sure you know that. But a simple guideline from me. If you don't like people doing certain things(depends on you) to you, don't do that to them. If you hate people disturbing your things, don't disturb their's and then tell them. God willing,they'll leave your things alone. That's all for now. Thank you for reading people. n_n


~Lonymous~

Hello and Quota

Hey guys. I really have lost count on how many days have I not updated my blog. I have been trying to update it but everytime I opened it, my laptop becomes slow. Now, since I have paid for my broadband. It's good as usual. Anyway, I'm afraid I still won't have a lot of time to update this blog after this. That's because on 22nd May, I'll be registering myself at UiTM Bukit Mertajam for foundation in science. As you know, the first week will be the busiest week. Ya la. Minggu Orientasi kan. Mestilah sibuk. I really hope that my choice going there, not to Matriculation is the right choice. Please wish me luck. Hehe. By the way, I'll try my best to update this blog when I have the chance. No worries. Ok, that's enough of talking. Let's get to business. Hehe.

Malam ni, nak cerita pasal apa ya? Hmm. I know. What do you think of the quota in furthering your studies after SPM given by the government of Malaysia? Ala, yang kuota antara bumiputera (B) dengan bukan bumiputera (NB) tu. Is it fair? Is it good? Should it be abolished? Should it be kept? Those are some questions that might be playing in our head or others. As for me, I think it should be kept but the quota should be more balanced between the B and NB and some modifications should be made to the quota. I know some of the intelligent adolescence (yang bijak pandai lah selalunya fikir macam ni) think that it should be abolished. So that, the B students will not take things for granted, become more competitive, and also healthier competitions between B and NB. True. Even I can't argue with that because... Yeah, it's totally true. But sometimes, we need to think out of the box. Don't just think about us. Kadang-kadang, untuk mendapat satu idea dan pandangan yang bernas, kita perlu berfikir dari sudut pihak lain juga. Bak kata orang putih, what if we're in the other's shoes? For B who is bright and brilliant and also capable to pay for tuition fees, maybe abolishing the quota is all right and won't be a big problem. But think about the B who is from a poor family, lives in a remote places, abolishing it might be harsh. Ya la. They can't afford to go to tuition like us, they can't afford to buy a lot of exercises books like us. Jadi, agak susah bagi mereka untuk mendapat keputusan yang cemerlang seperti pelajar-pelajar di bandar dan yang berkemampuan. Even some of the capable students are worst than them. It's true that it's not impossible for them to get excellent results but the probability is small. So, without the quota, surely most of the NB will get the scholarships and chances to further their studies. Kasihanlah dengan B yang tak berkemampuan tu. So that is why I think the quota should be kept.

Now, let's talk about balancing the quota between B and NB. Entahlah korang sedar atau tidak, NB memang sangat susah untuk mendapatkan apa-apa biasiswa sama ada daripada JPA atau MARA dan lain-lain biasiswa di Malaysia. Untuk mendapatkan kursus-kursus yang baik di mana-mana IPTA juga sangat sukar bagi mereka. So, for me, the Government should think about balancing (entah betul ke tak istilah yang digunakan ni) the quota. Give more chances to NB who are really qualified. Just imagine, a friend of mine, a chinese who got straight A+'s (10 subject) is only offered a diploma in...Emm... I can't remember in what but it's a total insult. 10 A+ kot. Come on la. Tu memang melampaulah. So, what I meant by balancing the quota is that NB students who is really qualified like that friend of mine should be given more chances to get good courses in IPTA. Habis bahagian tu.

Now, about the modification. I think the scholarship should be given not depending 100% on the results but also based on the family background. Poor students, regardless they're B or NB, who manage to get good results, maybe 5A's and above...should be offered courses which are suitable with their results. Maybe students who get 4A's should also be given the chance too as long as they manage to get at least 'kepujian' in all the subjects. Who get's below than that, yeah. You know, maybe they can go to Form 6, or IKBN or anywhere they want. Kalau nak longgarkan syarat melebih-lebih kang jadi isu graduan tidak berkualiti la apalah pulak. Susah juga macam tu. This is my humble opinion only and it doesn't mean you have to agree with what I said. You have your own mind, you have your own thinking and you can be 100% sure that I won't say you're wrong. That's all for tonight. Oh yeah. One more thing.
TO ALL MY FRIENDS. SELAMAT BELAJAR DAN SEMOGA MEMPEROLEH KEJAYAAN DI TEMPAT BARU. KEPADA SENIOR-SENIOR YANG AKAN FLY KE LUAR NEGARA, GOOD LUCK AND DON'T FORGET, WHEREVER YOU GO, ALWAYS BE A PROUD MALAYSIAN. 

p/s: INGAT TUHAN SELALU. Hehe. Till the next post.

~Lonymous~

Bahasa Kelantan

Hey guys. Huh. I wonder... How long have I abandoned this blog? One day? Perhaps two? A week? Oh. Doesn't matter. Anyway, just in case if anyone were wondering where I have been for quite some time, the answer is, I went nowhere but MY LAPPY DOES. Where? Ke kedai. Well.It's kinda broken and I tried to repair it myself but I failed miserably so in the end, to the shop it goes. Oh my gosh. Dah mula merapu dah ni. Ok. Now, back to the topic.

Bahasa Kelantan. Well, I'm sure this language is famous everywhere in Peninsular Malaysia (forget about Sabah and Sarawak coz I'm not sure). Why? Sebabnya, orang Kelantan ni, suka berpindah ke tempat yang akan memberi peluang kepada mereka untuk berniaga dan jadi orang kaya(not all but mostly). Tak percaya? Haha. No problem. Cubalah pergi jalan-jalan di pasar malam ke, pasar minggu ke, atau restoran-restoran tertentu di mana-mana di seluruh negara, mesti anda akan dapat cari kedai makanan Kelantan. Even at the night market near my house, there's this auntie from Kelantan, who is selling nasi kerabu and nasi dagang(pure Kelantan). Memang laku lah perniagaan dia. Dia mula berniaga lebih kurang pukul 6 dan bila pukul 7 lebih-lebih sikit je, sure habis dah. Sometimes, dia dah tutup kedai dan balik dah. Huh. Anyway, korang tak akan jumpa bahasa Kelantan yang pure di tempat lain kecuali di Kelantan sendiri. Apa yang specialnya? Haha. Well, ada satu hari tu, my family and I tengah jalan-jalan then, dalam perjalanan kitaorang nampak satu signboard kedai gambar. Di situ, tertulis, 'Sudah Selalu'. Korang rasalah kan, apa maksud signboard tu? Apa?

Haha. Boleh di agak. Ramai yang akan cakap, kedai itu bermaksud sudah selalu tangkap gambar, ataupun dah biasa tangkap gambar dan yang sewaktu dengannya. Tuuuttt. Salah. Sebenarnya, maksud 'Sudah Selalu' di signboard itu adalah gambar yang ditangkap pada hari itu akan 'Siap Terus'. Ada macam-macam lagi bahasa yang digunakan orang Kelantan akan disalah-faham oleh orang luar. I havea story to tell. Ada dua pelajar menyewa satu rumah. Seorangnya orang Kelantan dan seorang lagi orang KL. Sambil-sambil mereka bersantai di rumah, tiba-tiba seekor ular masuk melalui celah pintu. 

Orang Kelantan: Ambik penyapu wey....Katok2...

Orang KL : Apesal2? Ya Allah Ular. Kejap2. Aku ambik penyapu.

Orang Kelantan: Katok la. Katok.

Orang KL : Bukan katak la. ULAR tu. ULAR. ULAR.

Orang Kelantan: Katok la. KATOK. KATOK. 

Dan begitulah seterusnya. Orang KL itu menganggap yang sahabatnya mengatakan ular itu katak sedangkan maksud 'Katok' yang dikatakan oleh orang Kelantan itu adalah 'Ketuk', bukannya katak. Tapi tak boleh nak salahkan orang KL tu jugak sebabnya, memang ketuk dan katak dalam bahasa Kelantan disebut 'Katok'. Namun, ada sikit perbezaan dalam cara menyebutnya. Ketuk akan disebut Katok. Katak pula akan Kattok.

Orang Kelantan ni, percakapan mereka ada tinggi rendah. Macam bunyi Ka dalam katok tadi, Ka untuk ketuk bunyinya tengah dan Ka untuk katak bunyinya tinggi. Lagi, plastik dalam bahasa Kelantan akan disebut supik. Basikal akan disebut Sika. Lagi satu, korang mesti pernah main sembunyi-sembunyi kan? Orang yang akan mencari perlu mengira mungkin dari 1-10 bagi memberi peluang untuk kita bersembunyi. Kiraan bagi orang Kelantan cukup mudah iaitu...so,wo,go,pak,mo,ne,juh,pear,le,luh.

so=1,wo=dua,go=3, dan seterusnya. Banyak lagi yang nak di-share tapi tak apalah. That's it for now. Till the next post.

~Lonymous~