Talk To Strangers - #2 (Catalyst)

     Oya oya? How's life? May yours be filled with delight. n_n   Well, at least mine is. A bit of twist here and there, but yeah, that's life aye? It's filled with ups and downs, twists and turns. Right. Enough babbling and let's get to business.

     Few days ago, I was talking to a close friend of mine about how doing good deeds, no matter how small, can actually lighten up someone's day. To borrow her words, "Simple acts actually counts." Coincidentally, I was having a bad hair day, being scolded by doctors and stuffs, a small gesture by a stranger kind of saved me on that very same day. Okay, saved me tu macam over-la pula, but, meh, you know what I mean.

     It began more or less like this, I was walking back to my room for lunch at that time and on my way, I encountered a cleaner nearby my hostel. She's a petite, middle-aged woman with wrinkles all over her face and hands, slightly tanned. She was wearing a dirty t-shirt and her arms were exposed so you could see her veins bulging, a testament of the lady's strength. I gave her a small nod when our eyes met and she immediately recognised me.

     Okay, to be honest, she's not exactly a total stranger. When I was still a first year student, everytime I got out of my room to go to morning lectures, I would see her cleaning, and everyday I would say hi to her till at one point, she became friendly. So, you could say, we've talked to each other but gitu-gitu je la. You know, I bet you have that people where you rarely talk to them, but you do know them, so whenever you see them you would nod a bit just so they won't think you're rude or arrogant. Right? Ke takde?

     Okay, back to the story, when she saw me, she immediately called out to me. "Adik! Tahun berapo doh lo ni?" She was asking me, what year am I in right now. I answered her and we had some small talks, but what she said at the end was the thing that made my day. "Setahun ja la lagi dih. Nok habih doh la dio. Jadi doktor doh pahni. Mokcik doa la ko adik biar jadi doktor hok baguh, biar mudoh belajar, buleh tolong ore. Deh. Gi dulu deh." To translate it simply, she was wishing me well and said she would pray to God to ease my studies so that I can become a good doctor and help people one day. She then left with a nod and smiled at me, to which I returned it with a shout, "THANK YOU!" for I really mean it.

     Baru lepas kena marahkan, dibodoh-bodohkan lagi. Tengah down and suddenly someone wished you well and said something nice to you, that was a real help. I could have slept the sorrow away (tidur 6 jam ok la kot), but just that little gesture by that makcik helped speed up the process to no time at all, like a catalyst. I was immediately refreshed, ready for many more days of learning. I don't know if you have ever felt this, but for me, I noticed, if people were to say something good to me, I would get like some sorts of "buffs'. Depending on who they are, and what they said, some would power me up for a whole week, and that would be my mom. I think you get it don't you?

     This brings me to my conclusion. One, talk to strangers, even by just saying hi. You never know how much of a help they could be in time of need. If saying hi is too hard, a simple smile would do. Do choose them though, janganlah main tegur semua orang. That's dangerous. My second and final point would be, "Simple acts actually counts" so do your share and spread the positivity. Belanja kawan segelas air ke, share some of you candies maybe, I don't know. Be creative, be the catalyst. No matter how small it may seems, you could never guess the sense of tranquility it may provide them. Till next time, ciao.

Not just NYC communities, but to the world communities as well. (Credits to NYC Media)

~Jaw~

Talk To Strangers - Story #1

Peace be upon you. Yo! 

   How was your day? :)   I hope it was a good one since it was a good one for me. Doktor belanja makan, acano tak good? XD   

   I have a few stories to share that I find quite interesting which happened to me not too long ago. However, for today, I'll write  only one story since I think 'Talk To Strangers' is something I do frequently at times, it will be too long to write all of these stories in one post. Therefore, I'll separate these stories and update them another day. I hope they will be good to read and benefit you since they taught me a lot. n_n

   This is a story about a lady, who is a total stranger to me. We simply had the chance to talk and she is a native, a Blackfoot or Siksika in her language. That's what she told me and believe me, that's my first time I've heard them too. XD   Try Googling it and you'll find out about them. I'm sure you'll notice that you know these people through movies even if you might be as clueless as I was when  I first heard that name.  =w=

~Story 1~

   Her story started when she met her ex-boyfriend. It was a happy relationship and she honestly hoped to be married to him. After a few years, they got engaged. As you might know, sex before marriage are very common nowadays *spare me the religious thought for some other time please* especially in certain countries like hers, so she and his boyfriend did it. Even until now, she still think she did the right thing because she did it out of love, not lust, and so I let her continue with her story. 

   As many stories go, she got pregnant. She was really happy for it thinking they would have a family really soon. Her new family will be complete. She was happy for a while but that was when it started to go wrong. Her fiance called off the engagement. What happened to him, I never asked as she continued telling me her story. 

   She said, even if her ex did her wrong, the baby did not, so she would give birth to that baby, no matter what. *orang bukan Islam pun boleh fikir macam tu, kenapalah orang kita sampai sanggup bunuh bayi?* Everyday she would talk with the baby, caress her stomach, give love to the baby but even that didn't last long. After just a few months *I'm not sure how long* she was once again tested with hardship. She had a miscarriage. I was petrified when she said that. The fact that she looked so heartbroken was enough to break my heart all the same.

   "Why are you telling me this miss? I'm just a stranger," I said. "I don't mind talking to strangers like you about this. In fact, it's easier. You don't judge, you just listen and you grieve with me," answered her while smiling a bit. I simply bowed and we parted on our own ways. Silent prayers for her and all mothers who suffered the same.

I saw it today and yeah. It's nice. :)

~Jaw~

Wanita Perlu Jaga Rupa

Peace be upon you. Yo everyone. Waddap? I'm doing great, really great. Hope you're the same. Walaupun baru jugak update sebenarnya, tapi terasa macam nak jugak update sementara idea tengah fresh. I just hope you guys will enjoy reading this. Maaflah sebab bahasanya mungkin kedengaran kasar sikit, campur dengan bahasa rojak sikit. XD

Mula-mula sekali nak cakap, aku tulis ni bukan nak memburukkan sesiapa. 100% jujur, ikhlas untuk bagi idea kat girls, betapa pentingnya jaga rupa. Banyak kali dah bersembang pasal ni dengan kawan-kawan perempuan yang lain, dan kebanyakkannya cop aku miang, gatal dan yang sewaktu dengannya lepas diskusi-diskusi tersebut selesai. Aiseh, ada kelas. Diskusi kau. XD   Terus terang cakap, aku tak kisah orang kata apa, aku tahu aku nak bini lawa jugak. Haha. Tapi, sebelum korang cop, "Mamat ni miang ah, etc", bagilah can dulu kepada hamba untuk menjelaskan. Boleh noh? Maseh. n_n

Jadinya, kongsi pengalaman dulu boleh kot. Pada suatu hari, *ewah* aku tengah lepak-lepak kat lab, tetiba ada sorang kawan perempuan aku ni tanya soalan luar alam. Langsung tak ada kena mengena dengan konteks pembelajaran. Lari terus macam Usain Bolt pecut 100 meter. Ok, itu mengarut. XD   Sambung balik, buatnya dok dalam makmal Biologi, boleh dia tanya dengan muka innocent, "Kau suka perempuan macam mana?" Pap. Kaku sekejap. Apa aku nak jawab ni? Jawab nak yang lawa, kang semua dub aku miang. Jawab nak yang muslimah, mangai, bunyi macam kerek pulak. Haha. Tapi, yang menariknya, logik aku, si budak belasan tahun masa tu, buat aku lagi rela dikata miang daripada kerek. Aku jawab, "Aku nak yang lawa, sejuk mata memandang, senang hati aku melayan." Korang tahulah consequence selepas tu. Tebal muka entah berapa lama menahan orang kata aku lelaki gatal. Gua miang? Come on la sisters. Untung aku jawab jujur, korang tanya orang lain, gerenti dia jawab, "I suka yang macam you." Eww, tolonglah. Haha.

Some girls still think of me like that. Lelaki miang, jangan didekati kalau tak nak miang melekat. Haha. Jadi terasa nak tulis kat sini, apa definisi lawa bagi aku, dan apa maksud aku dengan, "Aku nak yang lawa, sejuk mata memandang, senang hati aku melayan." Let met start with the 'lawa' definition. Amaran, kau jangan kata "Tak sama pun macam dalam kamus." Fyuu, 'flying kiss' hinggap di pipi nanti. LEL. Definisi sendiri ni. Haha. Lawa atau cantik ni, bagi aku, maksud dia, sesuatu yang bila kita tengok, rasa senang hati. Kau tengok tandas bersih, kau senang hati. Apa kau kata? "Lawa tandas ni." Haha. Tak ke? Dush, mengapakah tandas juga yang menjadi contoh kau Jaw? *monolog dalaman XD* K fine. Contoh elok sikitlah. Tengok taman, korang rasa senang hati. Bunyi burung berkicauan keriangan, bunyi cengkerik sesekali memecah kesunyian. Berbumbungkan langit biru, ku lena dalam pelukan angin yang menghembus dingin. Ewah. Apa korang kata? "Lawa taman ni." Haha. Rasanya cukup terang dah penjelasan yang diberi. Basically, I define everything that is nice to see as 'lawa'. Senang, mudah, indah, apa ke jadah. Eh? As simple as that. 

Kemudian, pasal "Aku nak yang lawa, sejuk mata memandang, senang hati aku melayan." Ayat ni serius mudah untuk disalahfahami oleh orang-orang yang prejudis terhadap saya. Haha. If you know me, you'll understand that I mean no harm. Takde itchy-itchy punya. Aku cuma nak perempuan yang lawa di mata sendiri, bila tengok dia, hilang rasa letih and all dan end up aku rasa senang hati je nak melayan kerenah si dia. That's what I meant. Namun, masih ada kawan aku yang tetap salah faham walaupun dah dijelaskan sampai tahap ni. So, let me add some more. Kecantikan tu subjektif. Tak ke? What is beautiful for me may be ugly for you and vice versa. Beauties are in the eyes of the beholder. Dengan menggunakan perkataan tersebut, bukan bermaksud perempuan tu kena 36-24-36 (hourglass body shape) baru dikata lawa. Lawa jugak tak bermaksud perempuan tu kena ada badan macam Marilyn Monroe. Biar badan macam Adele tahun 2008 pun, kalau dah dengan tengok tu rasa senang hati, aku kata lawa jugak. Biarlah rupa tak sama macam Ella pun, kalau dah tengok senang hati, tetap aku kata lawa. Begitulah lebih kurang maksudnya.

Meh sini nak bagi sebab pulak kenapa wanita kena sentiasa jaga rupa. Dah memang jadi lumrah lelaki suka perempuan cantik dan seriously, korang sendiri pun tak nak orang lain tengok korang  macam pontianakkan? Setidak-tidaknya, pontianak pandai jaga rambut, baju dia pun putih berseri, sebab tu masih ada lelaki yang nak buat dia jadi bini. LOL. Contoh terbaik ni. XD  Aku sendiri dah mengaku tadi dan aku berani kerat jari *sekadar penegasan sahaja. LOL*, lelaki lain pun lebih kurang je. Kat sini perempuan yang kurang keyakinan diri selalu down ni. Rasa diri dia tak cantik, tak lawa, tak chumil la apalah. You're wrong. Apply the beauty is subjective concept. Biarlah ramai yang kata korang tak lawa pun, gerenti, akan ada jugak yang kata sebaliknya. Logik jugak bila fikir balik. Kalau semua kata kau lawa, mampus semua berebut nak buat kau jadi bini, perempuan lain acano? Hah? Mindblown. By the way, dengan jaga rupa, bukanlah bermaksud, kena mekap tebal-tebal, kena sambung kening etc. Cukuplah sekadar berpakaian yang buat korang rasa selesa. Yang penting kemas, takleh serabut-serabut, muka kena senyum sokmo, pakai tudung elok-elok, yang free hair, rambut biar tersusun rapi. Ala, macam korang keluar ngan kawan-kawan perempuan yang lain. Nothing too heavy, not too light. Takde nyer lelaki kata kau hodoh pakai tudung sarung, tapi cantik gila, meletup, kebabo bila pakai tudung Hana Tajima. Samo yo. Takde nyer kau jadi lagi cantik bila pakai heels berbanding pakai wedges ke apa. Please be noted that I am talking in a guy point of view. Pakailah tudung belit ke, tudung bawal ke, tudung Mawi ke Yuna ke, lelaki tetap nampak tudung je. Pakailah kasut ke, heels ke, Converse ke, selipar ke, lelaki tetap nampak alas kaki. Samo yo. Aku bagi korang RM10 kalau boyfriend korang puji, "Lawa tudung Mawi you hari ni. Tinggi betul wedges you. Pakailah heels tinggi langit pun, I akan tetap sambut you kalau you jatuh." Yucks. Haha.

LOL. I should stop now. Sebelum kena sumpah jadi batu dengan mana-mana perempuan yang baca post ni. Haha. Few last words to my girl friends *jarak eh.ada senggang di situ*. Just be yourself. There'll be guys who think you're beautiful without you even trying to make them think that. DAN SAYA TAK MIANG. Terima kasih. XD

~Jaw~

SPM

Peace be upon you. Hey guys. 'Ssup?  Sihat macam biasa harapnya. n_n   This post is meant for my SPM 2013 friends. So, how's your result? Amacam? Tak ada sorang pun yang update status kat Facebook pasal keputusan SPM. Or is it only me who didn't notice? Haha. Anyway, tahniahlah sebab berjaya jugak menghabiskan hampir semua pergantungan pada zaman persekolahan. Believe me, that's an achievement. Ramai je budak sekolah lain yang berhenti separuh jalan. So, give yourself some applause. Keputusan SPM, tolak tepi sekejap. n_n   And, before I forget, to those SPM 2013 friends from MRSM Kubang Pasu, don't worry. I saw the MRSM ranking just now and yeah. We are not in a good position. Tapi, apalah sangat yang ada pada ranking. Keep calm and love KUPA. Nothing else matters as long as you learnt something you can use in your next phase of life.

So, here begins my real post. XD   Tahniah kepada mereka yang berjaya, yang kurang berjaya, kena sentiasa ingat, Allah memberikan yang terbaik buat kita. So, don't give up hope on Him.

"O my sons! Go ye and enquire about Joseph(Yusuf) and his brother, and never give up hope of Allah's Mercy, truly no one despairs of Allah's Mercy except those who have no faith." [Yusuf : 87]

I experienced what you are currently going through and I do believe that gives me some credits. From my experience, believe me, SPM doesn't mean everything. It doesn't even mean 50% of that. Jaw bagi lebih kurang 20 peratuslah. 10% untuk dapat pujian daripada orang lain. 10% lagi untuk masuk ke universiti yang elok-elok(kalau ada yang rancang nak ambil diploma atau asasi), tak pun, untuk peluang masuk ke matrikulasi(you don't need to get straight A's for entry to matriculation by the way). Serius! So, you don't have to worry much. Jadi, kalau korang merungut kat kucing pasal result, tolong hentikan. Kalau korang rasa macam diselubungi oleh awan hitam, pembawa musibah yang berpanjangan, dengan kilat sabung-menyabung macam nak sambar korang, tolong hentikan. 

What you should do now?

1. Bersyukur dengan keputusan yang anda dapat, ucap terima kasih pada Tuhan. I know it's cliche, but yeah. A good believer should do that.

2. Think a lot about where you want to further your study and who or what you want to be in the future. You are now at the stage to decide this but you can delay it a bit longer. If you need to delay it, go for matriculations or foundations in UM or UiTM. If you've decided, choose and fill in your UPU form wisely. Apa-apa pun, ukur baju di badan sendiri.

3. Chat with your parents, teachers, seniors, etc. Always ask their opinions on what options do you have, what to choose, and everything else you might need. 

4. Prepare yourself for interviews. Korang bakal menerima surat, mesej, ditelefon, dll oleh banyak pihak untuk temuduga. Universities, scholarship givers, third parties etc are itching to give their money/courses to you, as long as you are competent.

5. Always check, check and check, on news about scholarships, universities offers etc. Masa ni, boleh kata hampir setiap hari korang akan dengar benda-benda baru. These informations can be easily obtained from the associated websites, newspapers, advertisement in television, Karnival Masuk U etc. *don't forget to follow MH370 news too. n_n

6. Last but not least, enjoy your remaining holidays. Jarang sangat dah dapat merasa cuti panjang macam ni nanti. So, spend it wisely. n_n

I have nothing much too say. Just, if you have anything. Anything at all. Nak cerita pasal keputusan SPM korang ke, nak tanya soalan pasal biasiswa ke, nak tanya pasal asasi ke, nak tanya pasal USM ke, nak tanya apa-apa je. Please do. Inbox me or post on my Facebook wall or comment here or text my phone, doesn't matter any way, any time. I'll be glad to help as much as I can. May Allah bless you guys and have nice everyday. XD

~Jaw~

How Loving Animals Are

Kawaii nee

Yo minna(everyone). Peace be upon you. How are you guys enjoying the week? Good I hope. Mine is a bit coloured with sadness. The still missing plane MH370, a friend's mother passed away (takziah diucapkan. may Allah bless your mother, you and your family), the prolonged drought around Malaysia and so many more things that I can't really finish listing all of it. God knows best and may He guides us and protects all of us from harms. 

Last night, I went out for dinner with my roommate. On the way, I saw a little birdie on the floor. I tried to take it and it flew away but not that far so I gave it another try. I managed to take it and it's very small and quite tame too. It seems to enjoy sitting on my finger. Maybe because of the heat from my hands as it was cold at that time. It's not hurt anywhere. I'm guessing it's just too small too fly and maybe it fell from it's nest. Maybe. Tak tahulah. So, my friend and I tried looking for the nest but to no avail. So we put it somewhere on a tree hoping that it'll fly by the time we come back from dinner. Guess what? It was still there when we're back from dinner and out of pity, we took it to the hostel. Bagi air sikit, biskut sikit then letak dalam sangkar DIY. Haha. 

It's a cute little bird. Checked the info just now. Burung kelicap rupanya. Boleh kata burung yang banyak jugak kat Malaysia. Yellow-bellied sunbird is the English name, and... It's a female. No wonder la comel sangat. XD   No name given and no plan of giving one, but if you do think I should, could you suggest a cute name for me? Hehe. Thanks. Oh yeah. Kalau ada yang pernah bela ke apa ke, bolehlah share info sikit ngan Jaw. Apa dia makan, tak boleh makan etc. Thank you again. n_n   Dah cari dalam internet sebenarnya, burung ni makan apa. It normally eats nectar so I took a few small red flowers *tak tahu bunga apa* and tried to give it some. Too bad, the drought drained all the nectar. Kering je semua pokok. I simply feed it mineral water and some wet biscuits as suggested by a friend. Glad the bird ate it. Sedap ke tidak, tak tahulah. Asalkan makan, kira ok la kot.

So, here's the real reason behind this post. It happened just a while ago. Baru sejam tadi rasanya. I came back from lecture hall and played with the birdie for a while. Guess what, the bird's mom *I think* came to my room's window and it kinda hanged there for a while. Mungkin dia terdengar suara anak dia. They're both chirping like they're talking to each other. Mother's love. Powerful huh? n_n   Therefore, I decided to let it go. Turun bawah dengan roommate. Burung tu pun dah tak boleh duduk diam. Kicau sana kicau sini, gerak sana, gerak sini.

Another friend of mine came to see it. She played with it for a while *sampai kena berak dek burung tu. haha* and we waited for the little bird's parents to come. Serius tak masuk dek akal Jaw. Both the parents came and flew above our heads. Duduk bertenggek kat atas pokok. Dah macam tengok Bersamamu live kat USMKK. LOL. They actually chirp to each other and in a few minutes, the small bird took off and flew alongside the parents. Seronok doh tengok scene menyayatkan hati tu. Haha. However, it only lasted for a short while. That small bird really is too small to fly I guess. It sort of fell down on the stairs nearby so we took it again. We decided to take care of it for a while before releasing it again. Biar besar sikit, kuat sikit. Masa tu, biarlah dia terbang setinggi mana dia nak dan sejauh mana yang dia mampu. This is seriously a new experience for me. Memang pernah bela burung kat rumah, tapi bukan yang sekecil ni. Hope everything will turn out well insyaAllah.

The truth is, I'm really, deeply touched by these animal emotions. I love animals and every animals, if you treat them well, they'll love you too. Tengok macam mana burung-burung dalam cerita ni sayang mak dia, ayah dia, anak dia. Tengok sendiri macam mana anjing, kucing dan lain-lain binatang jaga anak diorang. They really take care of their kittens, puppies whatever. So why are there human who threw away their child? Tak cukup dengan buang, bunuh, buang dalam tong sampah. Apa ni? Kejam sangat mengalahkan binatang. Binatang macam singa pun, bukan dia bunuh banyak lembu untuk makan. Just one. Just an ox, or a cow is enough for a whole pride of lions. They kill because they need to survive, we kill? Sebab nak tutup malu, sebab nak jaga aib. Nauzubillah. Mintak simpang. May Allah protects all of us from such a monstrous deed. That's all for now. Thanks for reading. n_n

~Jaw~

Connecting People. Read, Marriage

Peace be upon you. Hi guys. A very beautiful Friday isn't it? Friday is always enjoyable for me since it's the start of my weekend. Not for most of you though. Too bad. Haha. Anyway, enjoy everyday and live it to the fullest since none of it will rewind for you if you missed something. Kalau game, bolehlah replay save data bila terlepas apa-apa event. Real life... Takde can. XD   A friend asked me to write a 'jiwang' post. I said I can't and maybe, this is a good enough replacement? Haha. I hope so. So why do I choose to write about this?

Let's see... Rasanya idea ni mula-mula datang masa cuti seminggu yang lepas. My mom was driving and I sat quietly beside her when she suddenly said, "Fulan si kawan abang tu dah gatal nak kawen abang tau? Pening kepala mak dia. Macam mana nak bagitahu bagi habis belajar dulu." I did my eyyy??? face and wanted to reply, "Mak, dia pun dah tua. Kasi jelah dia kawen. Perempuan umur 25 nak kahwin abang rasa, abang rasalah, dah betul dan sesuai sangatlah tu." Akan tetapi, disebabkan hamba ini segan sikit nak sembang pasal kahwin ni dengan mrs. mommy, hamba cuma reply, "Oh, dengan boifren dia la tu." Huhuhu. Oh by the way, I must tell you that I'm thinking here using a Muslim's point of view. I know many of my non-muslim friends who are quite against early marriage, even some Muslims do. Well, for them 25 is early, not for me. Haha. However I must tell you this, for Muslims, couple-relationship is not something to be taken lightly. Simply said to make non-muslim understand, it's something not allowed in many situations. I repeat, many situations but not all. For you, a man and a woman hanging out together, eating together etcetera-ing together is something normal but, in Islam, it's not allowed except if a family member is also there and he or she must be old enough to think what's good and bad. So, to avoid this, Islam encourages marriage. n_n

The situation at this moment, I see my friends, younger, older, peers, many of them are thinking of getting married and quite a number of them have this so called 'calon terbaik untuk aku'. Haha. It's very funny because this is the exact 'noun' I've been hearing since I was 14. Kapel kapel dengan 'calon terbaik untuk aku' tu, last-last break jugak. LOL. *jahat sungguh gelakkan kawan* Sorry. XD Anyway, what I'm trying to say here is, if you're still young, just don't pay so much attention on this kind of things. Bukan apa. Benda diluar kawalan orang kata. When you grow older, you'll see more of that 'calon terbaik untuk aku' and with so many choices, how can you say they're the best? n_n   Senang sangat kita melayan perasaan yang dok bertukar-tukar. Sekejap dia tu, sekejap dia ni. LOL. Mainan perasaan semua tu. Just stay single and wait for the right time. How to know it's the right time? I think I kind of know how, so keep reading. XD *LOL-ing for the same mistakes I made. muehehe*

You see, the younger people nowadays tend to think early marriage is a good thing and in contrast to that, the older generations think early marriage is mostly a disaster. Bukan semualah, tapi ini yang Jaw nampak. The younger ones, in a way, I can say that they're religiously conscious but in another way, they're lacking in experience. I'm not saying the older generations are not religious though. They're just more experienced with life that they include in their frame of thinking not only religious values but also their life experiences. Kita yang muda ni fikir mudah je. Kena kahwin cepat, tak baik kapel lama-lama. Kena kahwin cepat, berdosa kapel ni. Kena kahwin cepat, aku nak anak 3 sebelum umur 30. Haha. Express baq hang. Yang berumur ni diorang tak macam tu, diorang fikir jauh sikit. Nak kahwin muda, hidup sendiri pun tak stabil lagi. Nak kahwin muda, duduk pun rumah parents lagi. Nak kahwin muda, asyik tengok televisyen lagi. Lagi teruk, layan kartun lagi. *akulah tu* Haha. Macam manalah ibu bapa korang ada rasa nak bagi korang kahwin kalau dah macam tu perangainya. XD   If you do want to get married early, show them you're responsible, reliable and it's way better if you have some sort of income. Kalau tak ada, bukan tak boleh, tapi kena buat perancangan kewangan dan tunjuk dekat keluarga. Diorang masa tu gerenti bangga, "Pfft. Anak aku dah matang." Haha. I've heard some say, "Sebelum kahwin, yang lelaki kena pastikan ada 3 kunci yakni kunci kereta, kunci pejabat, dan kunci rumah." Being a man sucks la like this. Suck it up brothers. We can do this. Haha.

Baru-baru ni Jaw ada terbaca satu quote. It says 'When nikah(marriage) becomes expensive, zina(fornication) becomes cheap, so keep weddings as SIMPLE and AFFORDABLE as possible.' I agree with it 100%. Buat orang Islam, cuba fikir mengenai hadis-hadis ni:

"Carilah untuk dijadikan mas kahwin walaupun sebentuk cincin yang diperbuat daripada besi."(Riwayat Bukhari )

"Sesungguhnya wanita-wanita yang paling diberkati dan menjadi keutamaan adalah yang paling rendah mas kahwinnya." ( Riwayat Ibn Hibban) 

Both of this hadiths showed us one thing. That is cheap mahar is not a problem and in fact, it's a good thing. I'm not saying you cannot ask for fifty thousand of dowry, and I'm not saying that's expensive either. Dah kalau kau kahwin dengan jutawan, itu kira murahlah bagi dia. Mana aci mintak murah-murah ngan dia. Kenalah mahal sikit. Haha. Gurau je. It's up to you to ask for how much as long as that guy can afford it without so much trouble, insyaAllah, that will be okay. Tapi kalau sampai nak bagi mas kahwin pun kena berhutang, abang-abangku, tak payahlah. Cari lain je. Muahaha.

Finally, how to know it's the right time. I have a simple view in this matter. Once you have the candidate, get to know them better. Bukan mesti dengan berkapel. Cuba tanya kawan dia, tanya kawan kita yang kenal dia, tanya cikgu-cikgu dia, tanyalah siapa-siapa yang patut. Kalau betul yakin, part one settle. Part two, check yourselves. Are you ready to become a husband or wife? Are you ready to share everything with your spouse? House, money, cars, foods, bed, shampoo and maybe, Gundam*ehh tersesat* etc. Are you ready to become a father or mother? Are you ready to forgive and forget the mistakes of each other? Are you ready to support a family in the making? Money is the least in the list. Responsibility, trust, hard work etc comes first. There are many more but to put it simply in a single sentence, are you ready for something new, bad and good? If your answer is yes for all the questions, then I must say, the right time has come. *cakap macam dah kahwin ooo. haha*

Moh ler kiter tamatkan post ni. The points I want you to get from this are:
1. Islam encourages marriage.
2. 'Calon terbaik untuk aku' mungkin bukan calon terbaik untuk anda. Trust me. Haha.
3. Jangan marah mak dan ayah anda kalau mereka larang anda berkahwin awal. Mereka hanya risaukan masa depan anda. Masih nak kahwin awal? Buktikan kepada mereka segala positif -ble anda. Able, reliable, dependable, responsible dan segala -ble-ble yang ada.
4. Bagi lelaki, pastikan anda ada 3 kunci sebelum berkahwin iaitu kunci kereta, pejabat dan rumah. Paling lekeh pun bang, kunci pejabat kenalah ada. n_n
5. Bagi wanita, mas kahwin murah-murah pun cukuplah. Nak jadi wanita yang diberkati tak? *senyum nakal. XD*
6. Bagi lelaki lagi, kalau dah mas kahwin perempuan tu mahal sangat, move on bro. Nampak gaya macam tak nak kahwin dengan kau je. *unless she tries to help you in any way to ease the burden, just move on*
7. If you're ready for the world, you're ready for marriage. n_n


~Jaw~

Give And Gain ; Teach And Learn

Please watch this. It may change your life.

Peace be upon you. Hey guys. How are you? I hope it's as good as I am or maybe even better. n_n   I'm seriously in a good mood. Holidays do that to everyone don't they? XD   I' m currently enjoying my final holiday in second year and just imagine, it's only for a week. Sob sob. Anyway, I had done a lot of fun things in these past few days and the most worth mentioning, the Big Bad Wolf (BBW) Fireball Sale. Wuuu. It was really cool, one place full of many cheap books. Readers' heaven I must say. If only I came by car, I might have bought 50 or more books in one swoop, seriously. The books are that cheap and rare. This kind of book fest should be more popularised throughout the country. Baru ada kick. Haha.

Alamak, dah melalut pulak. Haha. Let's get back to the topic. The title is actually inspired by a motto I learnt in a fasilitator training I went to a few months back. *Ya ke? Lebih kuranglah kot* The motto is, I give therefore I gain, I teach therefore I learn. Nicely put isn't it. Anyhow, the motto is totally not the reason behind this post I'm writing.

I told you I went to BBW sale right? There, a few friends gave me lots of things. One gave me books, one spends her time with me by becoming my feeless tour guide, some even offered me to stay at their house and many more. All of that was given or offered without me asking. They merely came out of sincere politeness. Thank you so much to these people. *I hope all of you are reading this* These gifts and offers I got made me think, people give me a lot of things and I give a lot too. A lot less. XD   How people can be so thoughtful of me and how thoughtless I am of them. Teruk gila ko. *shooking my head* Therefore, this post is written.

I thought to myself, I cannot be so selfish. I end up buying a few souvenirs for my siblings, treated my friend to lunch and yada yada yada. It felt good. It really felt as if I gain something by giving. As a matter of fact, it made me realise, it's the joy of sharing things through blogging that keeps me writing here. Sharing, giving, more or less the same isn't it? n_n   It's the joy that  matters.

So, here I am, to invite you to give, share, offer, whatever the words are. You don't have to give much. Anything is fine. What you give, you will definitely gain it back in other forms which might be even more valuable. You give a pencil and you get back a teacher? You give a piece of bread to a beggar and you get back more pieces of bread later on? Something like the video above might happen you know, paying for the kid's medication and food, which are affordable to you, and in the end he paid you back for your meds which are many folds more expensive than what you gave. Who knows. XD  

You see. During my school days, I was a mentor for English subject. *Not bragging here, just sharing experience n_n* English is a very hard subject for me and I seriously have trouble understanding some grammar rules. It took me years to understand is are was were, the ing, ed and other God only knows thingies. Just when I thought I had understand, came another words or sentences that confused me and I had to start all over again to understand them. Susah der. However, I tried my best to explain to my friends and you know what happened? The basic grammar suddenly makes sense to me and it feels a bit easier to understand. I teach therefore I gain is a true and possible in many ways. So, next time you find it hard to understand anything, why not try teaching it to your friends? *angkat kening ^_^*

The conclusion is, you never lose when you give. You always gain, gain and gain. Therefore, don't be afraid to give. n_n   Plus, if you expect people to give you things, people expect you to give them things too. Something mutual.  Let's make this world a better place by practicing something as simple as this. Mata ne.

P/s: It's my first post fully written using my tablet. Hard work. XD

~Jaw~

Life As Medical Students - Part 1

Gambar hiasan semata-mata. Hehe

Yo. Peace be upon you. Happy new year everyone! ☆*･゜ﾟ･*\(^O^)/*･゜ﾟ･*☆

Hope you guys are doing fine as always. Got yourselves new year resolutions? I got mine. Hehe. Anyway, let's go back to the post thingy. A young friend of mine actually requested for this. A curious girl who just finished her SPM and thinking of becoming a doctor. May Allah fulfill your wish sister. This post is for you and also for other students who may have thought of becoming a doctor in the future.

First, let me define or outline what I'll be telling in this post. Since life of anything or anyone is actually subjective and different for each and everyone of us, I will limit it to my own life as a medical student. So, jangan marah pulak kalau korang tengok budak-budak medic kat tempat lain tak sama macam yang Jaw tulis. However I hope it can at least give you the vision or image of medical students' life. Then, I will also limit it to Universiti Sains Malaysia medical students only simply because that is where I am currently studying. 

Kursus Doktor Perubatan boleh dikatakan antara kursus yang paling susah untuk dimasuki di mana-mana universiti di seluruh dunia. So, for those who are interested to get in, brace yourselves to fight with thousands of excellent students in order to get to those hot seats. It will not be easy brothers and sisters. Korang sendiri mesti pernah dengar kes pelajar-pelajar matrikulasi yang dapat pointer 4.0 tapi tak berjaya memasuki kursus ni. Lebih teruk lagi, ada yang tak dapat tempat dalam IPTA pun. Don't want this to happen to you? So, start from now. Pray to God that He bless you with good results in SPM because you definitely need it to enter good universities and good courses. You don't want to fail any subjects, that's the most important thing.

The core in life of every medical student is to study. Whenever, wherever, whatever, no matter how, they need to study. Serius beb. Bunyi macam melebih-lebih, tapi inilah kebenarannya. And being here in USM, only for my first year lecture notes which I didn't even print out many of them, the height when those notes are stacked are above my knees. Tinggi baq hang. Tak campur dengan buku-buku teks lagi. Bayangkan. Haha. I'm sure some of you have heard people saying,

"No need to study hard, just study smart."

Believe me, that's not sufficient in medical schools. First, it's definitely not enough for the examinations, and second, it's definitely not enough to become a doctor. Doktor merawat hidupan, bukan mesin yang sama je barang dalaman dia. For people, there are always exceptions and differences. Kalau salah rawat, pesakit mati tidak berganti kekawan.

Bila dah cakap pasal belajar, of course kena cakap jugak pasal exam. In USM, the 1st year have four exams. First, second and third selanjar, then comes the final examination a.k.a Professional Examination(Pro). To make it short, Pro, is the most important among and all these and everything learnt in the 1st year will come out in Pro. Not to mention, we have three Pro. One in 1st year, 3rd year and 5th year. For the 3rd and 5th year, all that is learnt in a year before and also the current year  will come out in the Pro. Eg: 3rd year Pro, 2nd and 3rd year thingies may be asked. Dua tahun nak kena cover beb. Just imagine, how hard it is. Oh and yeah, I forgot to tell you, failing in exam is something normal in medical school. Kat sekolah dulu bolehlah berlagak tak pernah gagal-lah, apalah, tapi kat sini, orang yang dapat semua A masa SPM, 4.0 flat masa matrik/asasi/STPM etc pun ada je yang gagal. Therefore, for those who are interested to enter medical school, be prepared to study hard and smart and also prepare yourself to accept failure. 

(^(エ)^)

Hoho. So, basically the theory part is settled. Practical comes next. Nak jadi doktor kan? Mestilah kena mahir dengan praktikal. I'm in 2nd year right now, and many doctors told me that for now, it's important for me to learn the history taking(kemahiran mendapatkan maklumat daripada pesakit). That's of the utmost importance right now but there are other things that I need to learn as well. Physical examinations, pathogenesis(how the disease came to be), pathophysiology(what does the disease cause to us physiologically) and a little bit of disease management. 

Then, every week, there is a clinical teaching. Which means, some of us have to clerk a patient(ambil maklumat mengenai pesakit) and present it to the doctor in charge. Macam doktor-doktor kat klinik selalu buat tu, tanya korang sakit apa, sakit kat mana, ada sesak nafas ke, allergik ke, dan apa-apa lagi yang perlu ditanyalah. That's no easy task man. Some patients are quite grumpy and short tempered so you might be scolded by them(tapi Jaw tak pernah merasa lagilah kena marah dengan pesakit. ┐(￣ヮ￣)┌). Some are very cooperative and makes your job easier but then comes the second hurdle, the doctor in charge. Kekadang dapat doktor yang garang, kena marah lagi, tak boleh jawab soalan, kena marah lagi, tak boleh bagi diagnosis, kena marah lagi. Marah lagi lagi dan lagi. Haha. However, most of the doctors are cool. Boleh melawak lagi dalam kelas. Memang bersyukur habis kalau dapat doktor cenggitu. Jadi, kalau berminat nak jadi doktor, bersedialah nak bersoal jawab dengan pesakit yang kenal on the spot kata mat saleh, dan bersedia jugaklah untuk dimarahi dengan doktor, pesakit, nurse, makcik cleaner etc. Muahaha. ψ(｀∇´)ψ

Minna(everyone), I think I should end this post right now. There are a lot more that I didn't write here about being a medical student, however I think this is sufficient. Perhaps, if someone needs more info, I'll write Life As Medical Students Part 2. Maybe? Hehe. Dah cukup panjang membebel ni. Thanks for reading everyone. (≧∇≦)/

~Jaw~

A Little Reminder By A Brother From Somalia

Hallu readers. Peace be upon you. Eid mubarak(blessed Eid) to every muslim readers. n_n   Yesterday has been a very nice day for me even though I cannot celebrate Eid ul-Adha with my family this year *again.sigh*. I wonder how long has it been since my last celebration of Eid ul-Adha together with my family. Pfft, let's stop with the reminiscing. XD   Since I'm celebrating Eid ul-Adha away from my family, two of my Kelantanese friends invited me and some other friends who didn't go back home, to their open houses. Thank you to both of you. I had a good day and lots of good foods. n_n

Selfie master .(guy in red  XD)

So, here's the real deal. I can't fully remember what the Somalian brother said but I'll tell you the gist of it. The story starts when we went back to our hostel. After we arrived, we went to perform our sunset prayer in the surau. We're a bit late, though we're definitely not out of the time range yet. When we're finished, a brother from Somalia greeted us. We basically began to introduce ourselves and then he started a short tazkirah(reminder). His name is Omar by the way.

Omar reminded us about a few things and mostly, it's muslim related. Therefore, I'm gonna start the story by writing about what is relatable even to non-muslims. He is actually doing Ph.D and one of his research is linked to attitude and multi-drug-resistant-tuberculosis(MDR-TB). MDR-TB is tuberculosis that is resistant to two or more drugs used to treat TB patients. This can happen due to many reasons and Omar said, his research shows that the main reason is how the society(doctors,nurses,visitors,etc) perceive the TB patient. Many of us shunned the patients with TB. We are scared of being infected by them, we are scared that we might have the same disease and have to undergo the same treatment as them for months and we are scared that we might die of it. Just imagine if you are the patient and you are being isolated only because you are unluckily the infected person, how would you feel? If it's me, I would rather die than to be isolated and treated as a very dangerous person for months *that's if the drugs work* by people around me. Therefore Omar said, this is what caused the patients to halt from taking their antibiotics and of course when this happens, the Tuberculosis bacteria will become resistant to the drugs that are currently used to treat them. That's how dangerous the social stigma is. I wonder if this can be considered as killing people unintentionally? (･_･?)

So Omar reminded us, to send this word to other medical students and other people. Treat people nicely. God is the one who gave the person that illness to test the faith of His slaves *for me, this is meant not only for the one infected but also for the people around them*. God can take it back from him/her and in turn He can give it you anytime if He pleased. What we can do is taking precautions by wearing mask, gloves, etc but shunning them is definitely not one of the things you should do. n_n

Then, as I said earlier, we performed our sunset prayer, but we're a bit late. Therefore, Omar reminded us that the 5 times prayers have their own times and for muslims to be good slaves of Allah, we have to perform the prayers on time. Better if done in jama'ah at surau or masjeed. He told us about when he was still an undergraduate student studying in Sudan, he never missed performing Subuh prayers at the masjeed. Not even a single day, emphasized him. And the beautiful thing is, he said that there are almost 2000 to 3000 people performing Subuh prayer every single morning. Subhan'Allah. I can't imagine that. He told us to sleep early, before 12 am. It's no use to study until late at night but you cannot wake up early to perform Subuh prayer in time. He said, ever since he's an undergraduate student until now, he has never failed any paper for any subjects. His secret is, sleep early, study early in the morning and according to him, studying for one hour in the morning is more effective than studying for a few hours at night when you're sleepy. There's some truth to that and since he's so successful in his studies, I believe following what he did is a good way to success. Since he told me that, it has been my ambition to become like him. I failed for the first morning, but I'll never give up. Zettai ni!!! YADA!!! Never missed even a single day of Subuh prayer in Jama'ah at masjeed. Crazy I tell you.

So, let me summarise Omar's reminder here. First, treat people nicely and God's help will come. Second, perform your prayers on time and third, studying in the morning is better than studying late at night when you're sleepy. Being a good slave of Allah should be the target of every Muslims and how to do that? Perform what Allah ordered us to do and stay away from what Allah has forbidden. That's all for now and thank you for reading. n_n


~Jaw~

Berakhlak Mulia Sesama Insan / Good Moral Values Among Human

Peace be upon you. Hey guys. How's Ramadan treating you so far? Harap-harap menyeronokkan dan baik-baik je. Sekarang ni Jaw tengah baca buku Bicara Ini Demi Ilahi yang ditulis oleh Tuan Guru Dato' Nik Abdul Aziz Nik Mat. Belum habis lagi tapi setakat ni, boleh dikatakan buku ni sangat bagus. 'Eye opener' kata mat saleh. Haha. Lots of things we might think as trivial matters but actually have big impacts on us, our society and the whole world were discussed in it. Dalam buku ni, ada satu bab khas yang menceritakan mengenai akhlak sesama insan. So, here I am, doing a bit of summary for this chapter to share with you guys. May God bless. n_n

1. Berurusan dengan akhlak mulia

- Menurut pepatah Arab,

"Hendaklah kamu bergaul ibarat adik-beradik. Dan hendaklah kamu kira bicara ibarat orang jauh." 

Maksud pepatah ni adalah, bila bersahabat, kita kena anggap sahabat-sahabat kita macam adik-beradik sendiri. Macam mana kita layan adik-beradik kita, macam tu jugaklah kita kena layan sahabat-sahabat kita. Tapi, bila bab-bab hutang dan yang sewaktu dengannya, kita kena anggap mereka ni macam orang jauh. Means, you cannot delay paying your debts without good reasons and even more so you cannot just ask them to forget about the debt. Takkanlah kalau kita pinjam duit dengan bank, kita nak mintak bank tu belanja wat lek  je kan? Same concept is being applied. Beautiful proverb isn't it? Short but really deep. n_n

2. Menceriakan suasana perbualan.

- Basic rules boys and girls. Maniskan muka, senyum sikit dan sambil-sambil tu selitlah sikit gelak tawa bila berbual. n_n

3. Menghulurkan nasihat demi kebaikan.

- Senang cakap, susah buat. Ramai orang boleh bagi nasihat, tapi tak ramai yang boleh bagi nasihat dengan cara yang betul. Sebab itu, ramai orang yang dinasihatkan makin keras kepala jadinya. Kata penulis, nasihat perlu diberi dengan cara yang berhikmah. Gunakan kata-kata yang baik dan paling penting, elakkan nada yang keras bila menegur. Air muka dia kenalah jaga. Kalau kita malukan dia depan orang, macam mana dia nak terima. Kan?  n_n

4. Menjamu dan memenuhi undangan.

- Seperti yang semua tahu, majlis jamuanlah yang boleh mengumpulkan ahli keluarga dan sahabat handai di satu tempat. Masa nilah semua boleh bersembang, bergurau senda mengeratkan silaturrahim. Maka di dalam Islam, umatnya amat digalakkan untuk mengadakan majlis jamuan seperti ini. Mereka juga amat digalakkan untuk memenuhi jemputan ke majlis-majlis tersebut. Sampai ke tahap diwajibkan jikalau tiada kesulitan. Buat kawan-kawan bukan Muslim, kata orang, benda yang baik perlu diikut, yang buruk perlu ditinggalkan. I know you have this kind of gatherings too in each year, so please do not forget this tradition of yours too. And better still, why no we invite each of our friends to our gatherings regardless of their races and religions. Tapi, untuk majlis-majlis keagamaan dan yang dirasakan tidak bersesuaian, usahlah dijemput. We have to be sensitive to people's values right? n_n

5. Menyebarkan salam.

- Dalam buku ni, penulis memfokuskan kepada masyarakat Muslim tapi Jaw nak ubah sikit biar lebih umum untuk semua orang tak kira agama. Salam can actually be translated into greetings, hello, regards etc. Jadinya menyebarkan salam ini perlu untuk semua orang. Muslim dengan cara Muslim, dan yang lain dengan cara yang lain. Says Louis Armstrong in his song What A Wonderful World,

"I see friends shaking hands. Saying, how do you do? They're really saying, I LOVE YOU."

Beauty! By spreading salam or greetings, you are actually spreading love. And love is the only thing that can heal this sick world. By the way, for Muslims, please be noted that to give salam is sunat, but to answer it is wajib.

6. Menziarahi orang sakit dan kematian.

- Ada di kalangan kita sekarang terlampau berpegang pada adat. Sehinggakan jikalau tiada buah tangan, lebih baik tidak pergi berziarah. Yang diziarahi pula, jika tidak diberi buah tangan, mulalah mulut buat dosa kering. Haish. So, the writer said it's not important to bring gifts but to visit is more important. However, when you're visiting sick people, be considerate. Janganlah terlalu lama, berikan masa untuk orang yang sakit itu berehat. Doakan kesihatannya pulih seperti biasa. Semasa kematian pula, cubalah luangkan masa untuk menziarahi, ,menyembahyangkan dan mengiringi jenazah ke kubur sehingga majlis selesai. It is really meaningful for these people who just lost their loved ones. Sekurang-kurangnya, diorang tahu diorang masih ada ahli  keluarga dan rakan-rakan lain yang menyokong di belakang. n_n

7. Hormat-menghormati.

- Pendek kata, hormati ibu bapa dan orang yang lebih tua, suami isteri juga perlu saling hormat-menghormati. Satu lagi, adalah amat penting untuk kita menghormati masyarakat sekeliling terutamanya jiran tetangga tanpa mengira agama, bangsa mahupun warna kulit mereka.

That's all for my summary. Not really short isn't it. Miyane(sorry XD). Hope it can benefit us all somehow. I tried my best to write my summary so that it is acceptable for all, be it Muslims or Non-Muslims. You are all my friends, readers and I hope this summary is adequate. Thanks for reading. Peace out yo. n_n

~Jaw~

Oh Ayah Oh Ibu

Peace be upon you. Good day isn't it? n_n   This post should have been written around a month ago as requested, but too much work to be done. Sorry. Well, at least, I'm happy to finally be able to write and fulfill the request by a brother. Last month, I went to Forum Oh Ayah Oh Ibu. Boleh tahan ramai yang hadir masa tu. Jadinya post kali ini adalah perkongsian daripada apa yang disampaikan oleh ahli panel forum tersebut. Semoga bermanfaat. Sharing is caring,right?  n_n

The forum started with a video presentation. Nak kasi link tapi tak boleh bukak Youtube. Cubalah korang google 'Abah - Dr. Ahmad'. Maybe someone posted it on the internet somewhere. A panelist said, "Orang yang cerdik ialah orang yang belajar daripada kesilapan. Tapi orang yang LEBIH cerdik ialah orang yang belajar daripada kesilapan orang lain." I must say I agree 100% with him. Tak perlu hurai lebih, korang faham punyalah apa panel tu cakap. Simply said, try hard to be the 'orang yang lebih cerdik'. He also said that "Menghormati ibu bapa bukan sahaja kewajipan daripada segi agama tapi juga daripada segi moral dan etika." So, this means, as long as you're something called human, you should follow this ethical code which is obeying your parents."

Katanya, ada 4 sebab kenapa masih ada orang yang mengkhianati ibu bapa iaitu, SPRM:
S - Selisih pendapat kerana anak muda banyak mengambil keputusan mengikut emosi
P - Perwatakan ibu bapa yang dirasakan tidak sesuai. Penampilan memalukan.
R - Rupa paras memalukan.
M - Miskin

This four points basically covered all the messages the video 'Dr Ahmad' tried to convey. As a teenager myself, I can't help but agree that many times I do take actions according to my emotion. Thank God, I am lucky, I never felt the other three with my parents. I believe many of the readers here are as lucky as me too but of course these problems do exist in this society. n_n   Maka kepada sesiapa yang terasa, cubalah buang sejauh mungkin perasaan-perasaan tersebut. 

Then another panelist shared a beautiful story about Prophet Musa and a young man. One day, Prohet Musa went to pray on Mount Tursina. He could talk with Allah and so he asked, who will become his neighbour in the afterlife. Allah answered and told him the place where that person lives. Prophet Musa went to visit that man and when he arrived, the man didn't  even serve him water. The man went into a room, he brought out a female pig, bathe it, wiped it and kissed it. The man then enters the room again and this time he brought out a male pig, bathe it, wiped it and kissed it too. Prophet Musa was confused of the man's action and asked what is his religion. The man said he believes in Tauhid*believes in One God,can be considered as a Muslim*. He added that those pigs are actually his parents. They were cursed as they sinned against Allah. He hoped by doing that, Allah will forgive his parents and let them enter heaven. Praise be to God, the parents were put into the heaven along with the son. Cantik kan cerita ni? n_n   Ayuh berusaha jadi anak yang soleh macam lelaki ni *anak solehah jugak  XD*.

Then, a panelist asked, "Bagaimana kita boleh menjadi anak derhaka sedangkan kita berada dalam kandungan ibu selama 9 bulan? Kita anak manusia tidak boleh hidup jika dibiarkan sahaja tanpa dijaga. Ibu menyusukan kita selama 2 tahun. Bapa pula bekerja mencari nafkah untuk menampung kita. Jadi mengapa? Kenapa kita menderhaka?" Malu akan ibu bapa perlu dikawal dan jangan menjadi punca derhaka. Kita perlu sentiasa mendoakan ibu bapa, sentiasa cuba berbuat kebaikan pada setiap masa dan menggunakan perkataan yang baik apabila berkata-kata dengan mereka. God willing, we will do all this won't we? n_n

These are basically the important things mentioned in the forum, Banyak lagi sebenarnya tapi tulis banyak-banyak buat apa. Biar pendek asalkan bermanfaat. Tak gitu? *pendek ke? haha*   n_n

"Kita kena ada satu pendirian, bila bersama ibu  bapa, kita sentiasa salah kerana itu bukan tempat untuk berhujah tapi tempat untuk taat."

This was said by one of the panelist that night. Selagi mana ibu bapa tidak menyuruh kita melakukan perkara yang menentang agama, maka ikutlah dengan baik. Nak senang cerita, hormati ibu bapa, taat kepada mereka, berbuat baik terhadap mereka dan jangan sesekali menderhakai mereka. That's all for now. Thank you for reading. n_n
p/s: My friends and I will be having exam early next month. Please pray for us and wish us luck. Thank you. n_n

~Jaw~

Nurse The Noble Job

Hey guys. Peace be upon you. How's your day? n_n   Mine was nice and I hope tomorrow will be better for me and you. God willing. I shall cut to the chase and  waste time no more. n_n

This post is actually meant for my friends who are taking nursing courses, and also for all the nurses in the world. It was a few weeks ago if I'm not mistaken, a friend of mine requested me to write about nurse because she was pissed and sad due to certain people who seems to look down on her and other nursing students. Katanya orang tu, jururawat ni satu pekerjaan yang lekeh dan hina. Ya lah, kerja cuci najis orang, bagi orang makan dan lain-lain(you know many of what nurses do everyday). Worst, what made it more and more sad is, this was said by someone who might one day become a doctor(medical student-lah kiranya). Seriously man? If you're reading this, go refine yourself.

Tak perlu rasa terhina wahai jururawat

Friends, of course roughly we can say, nurses are below the doctors in the hospital hierarchy, but think, think about the years of learning, the practicals in hospitals and all that. I dare say that nurses are not that far behind from the doctors. Doktor belajar 5 tahun, jururawat 4 tahun(just one year short). Clinical years for doctors are roughly around 2 years, and for nursing is 1 year. Again, just one year short. Pendek kata, kursus kejururawatan ni bukanlah mudah seperti yang disangka. For me, nurse can be considered as a high class job because in order to be one is quite a difficult task.

Sahabat-sahabat, jika anda rasa jururawat itu satu pekerjaan yang hina, cuba fikirkan apa yang akan terjadi sekiranya di hospital hanya ada doktor-doktor dan tiada jururawat. Cuba fikirkan. Mahu kecoh dibuatnya semua hospital yang ada. Doktor berlari ke sana ke mari. Kejap pesakit tu panggil,kejap sana panggil. Kelam kabut kan? n_n   One more thing, nurses can actually be busier than doctors at times. They took care of all the patients most of the time. They spent more time with the patients compared to the doctors. Sesungguhnya jika difikirkan betul-betul, jasa jururawat kepada pesakit-pesakit dengan doktor, tak jauh bezanya. Doctor check and diagnose the patient, nurse take care of the patient. They are basically in need of each other. Nurses, doctors are basically a part of the same healing team. Maka siapalah kita untuk menghina mereka-mereka ini? n_n

I'm basically done with explaining why we shouldn't look down on nurses and now I'm moving on to one more thing also related to nurses. Don't worry, it's short and simple.

Uuuuu. This article really amuses me(salah satu sebabnya,sekarang ni jururawat lelaki pun dah ramai n_n). Kepada lelaki mahupun wanita yang sudah berkahwin dengan seorang jururawat, kepada yang aweknya mahupun pakwenya yang sedang bekerja sebagai seorang jururawat ataupun yang masih lagi belajar dalam bidang kejururawatan, semoga berjaya mengatasi masalah-masalah yang mungkin dialami seperti artikel di atas(if not now,maybe one day). n_n   As a son of a nurse, I am definitely confident that those problems stated in that article can be overcome with the right approaches.

To my non-nurse friends, we should appreciate these nurses and not look down on them. To nurses and nurses-to-be, don't be discouraged by some people who knows not appreciate the others. May you  fulfill your work happily and hopefully you yourselves won't look down on others as well. This is all for tonight. Thank you for reading. n_n 

~Jaw~

Ambitions

Hi guys. Sashiburi dana minna(It's been a while everyone). Finally I get to update this blog. Sorry for leaving it un-updated for so long. I actually have no idea on what to update and also due to time constrain. Today, I'll write a bit about ambitions. No need to explain what ambition is, I'm sure all of you know what it means.

'Apahal pulak mamat ni nak tulis pasal karangan bebudak ni haa' is what you might be thinking right now. Sebenarnya, bebaru ni Jaw baru sedar mengenai pentingnya ada cita-cita ni. Like, reallyX99 important. At first I thought it was like,'Naa,it's okay if I don't have ambition,I'll take whatever I can and think of that later.' But now, I'm like, 'Aku kena cecepat cari cita-cita,cepat,cepat,cepat....aaaaarrrrrr.' Thank God, I managed to find it which is, ada la(poyo je..ngeh3). Melalut dah ni, poin di sini adalah, CITA-CITA TU PENTING!!

Anyway, why do I stress that ambition is important? Here are the reasons. First, without ambitions, your young adult life will have a big problem and may cause you depression and to the extreme case, you might be in the psychiatric ward*please take note that this is the truth and I'm not exaggerating*. x(  Want that? Of course not. You see, I have some friends with this kind of problem. So let me tell a story that have been told by someone to me. There's a medical student in a university and his problem before he got into medical school is, he does not know what his ambition is. Jadinya, disebabkan mengikut kata-kata ahli keluarga dan juga disebabkan merasa keputusan peperiksaan dia bagus, diambillah akan dia kursus perubatan. Nak dipendekkan cerita, kawan ni hilang semangat nak belajar sebab medik bukanlah minatnya. Dia paksa juga untuk meneruskan medik dan akhirnya dia telah dimasukkan ke wad psychiatric sebab ada masalah mental*not that severe though,Alhamdulillah*. Don't want this to happen to you? Then think of an ambition.

Final reason, according to Maslow's Hierarchy of Need,(below)

the one thing we need for growth*bukan pembesaran badan ya,tapi proses kematangan* is self-actualisation. So what is considered as the things needed for self-actualisation? Some examples are challenging projects which need you to be really creative, some problem solving thingies and that kind of things. They are considered as high level learning which gives you satisfaction after giving your all in doing something. So, to get self-actualisation, you really need to know what your ambition is. Without knowing it, you might be doing something that gives you no satisfaction until you're old and maybe till you're dead*kesian mati tak puas XD*. When you know you're ambition, you'll get the motivation and when you get the motivation, you'll do your best. That way, you'll get self-actualisation which will blooms your flower*mematangkan anda*. Want to live your potential? Then find your ambition.

Before I end this post, let me ask you something. Do you have an ambition or maybe ambitions? If you don't, then please find one or a few. Since it used to be really hard for me to find my ambition, now that I've got it, I'll tell you what I did to find mine. First, I tried looking for something I really love to do. Sesuatu yang bila Jaw buat, Jaw tak bosan, tak letih dan boleh melakukannya dengan berterusan. Secondly, I looked at what is my interest. I am really interested with something related to Biology, therefore I've decided after SPM and after foundation, no matter what happens, I will only further my studies with something related to Biology. Quite a large scope yet I managed to narrow it to smaller scale didn't I? You can do it to. Lastly, ask the God. As a muslim, I asked Allah by praying to Him to help me make the right choice. Praying to God is very important. Let me tell you why I say that, I have a friend who really wants to further studies in something*can't remember what* and somehow!!! Somehow, she changed her application to architecture on the last day and submitted it. She got the architecture course and at first she regrets it because it is way out of what she wanted to be but now, she is really happy with it. You see, this Invicible factor is really important. For me, as the creation of the Almighty God, He knows what is the best for us, we don't and that's why we need to pray for His guidance.

" ;dan boleh jadi kamu membenci sesuatu padahal ia baik bagi kamu, dan boleh jadi kamu menyukai sesuatu padahal ia buruk bagi kamu. Dan(ingatlah), Allah jualah yang mengetahui sedang kamu tidak mengetahuinya." Al-Baqarah;216

That's all for this post. If you benefited from this post, thank God. If you don't, then please do not hate me as I'm just a humble writer. Be sure to wait for another post. See ya. Chiao.

~Jaw~

Hate

Why hate life when there are various ways to love?

Hey guys. What's up? Hope you readers are in good mood and are enjoying a good day*err..night?Or is it morning*. n_n   Anyway, it's been awhile since my last post*I don't have any idea what to update about actually* and now luckily, I got an idea on what to talk about. Let's get to the point.
Hate. A very well known word. Siapa tak tahu 'hate' atau benci ni bukan manusia namanya. We're born with that emotion,feeling or whatever you call it. Jadi, satu poin penting yang nak diberitahu di sini, tak salah untuk membenci sebab itu normal. Well, who does not hate being bullied? Who like their family members being disturbed or hurt by anyone? Who like seeing violence?*except violence movies that is.Yang tu tak dinafikanlah kalau ada yang suka tengok* Anyone? If you are, better go find counselor or someone who can help. You're in need of some serious help. Kebelakangan ni, saya kerap melihat kata-kata kesat, 'hate videos' dan macam-macam lagi yang berkait dengan kebencian dalam internet.
First, rant. 'Rant' bermaksud berkata-kata atau menulis dengan nada yang marah. This is definitely... Hmm. I'd say it makes about 5-10% of my daily news feed in Facebook. Itu yang nampak, yang tak nampak entah berapa banyak lagi. Example, "Perangai macam f***. Dalam fb sembang kencang,dok maki aku gila-gila,depan-depan kalih kepala. Takut ka? B***." You see, this is definitely not healthy. Not healthy at all. I wonder, do they not realise that they're talking about themselves? Kata orang sembang kencang dalam Facebook dan dia pun sama. Macam peribahasa Melayu, bagai meludah ke langit. What they said came back flying to them just like a boomerang and they don't even realise it. Sad. Kadang-kadang orang macam ni akan cuba untuk tidak memikirkan benda-benda ni sebab tak nak serabut katanya, tapi kebencian tu disimpan je dalam hati. Do you think they'll be able to forget about it or at least ignore it even if they try? The answer, no. When you do not forgive, the hate will always haunt your mind. Bila dah benci, mesti akan terfikir "Kenapalah mamat tu bengong sangat?" or "How can I get my revenge?" or something like that. Even if time will  make you think less about it, but it definitely can't make you forget permanently. Macam mana tak serabut kalau macam tu. Learn to forgive, if you're not doing it for the sake of the people you hate, then do it for you. Sebabnya itulah satu-satu cara untuk membebaskan fikiran kita daripada berfikir mengenai masalah-masalah tu.
Second, hate videos. This kind of videos are abundant in the internet. Kalau di Malaysia terutamanya, sekarang ni banyaklah video-video ceramah politik itu politik ini *lagi-lagi pilihanraya dah dekat ni* dan kebanyakannya mereka mengajar kita untuk membenci parti musuh mereka. Not long ago, there's this guy who posted a video about an ulama that calls another ulama a kafir. Haish. This is what hate brings, broken friendship, broken trust, broken bond, broken everything. Many blames that politics is what made this happen but what is wrong with politics? Nabi juga berpolitik jadi salahkan politik? NO! It is hate that made this happen. Kalau seseorang tidak membenci seseorang yang lain, dia tidak akan sesekali mengkafirkan orang tersebut. Video-video mengenai Bersih 3.0 baru-baru ni. Banyak jugak menyebarkan kebencian. Yang peserta Bersih mengatakan si polis anjing dan si polis pulak menganggap peserta Bersih ni perosak keamanan. Jadi ramailah yang berpecah, ada yang menyokong si polis dan ada yang menyokong si peserta Bersih ni. This is a bad influence to the new generations. But luckily, I see that many young generations, those we can call teenagers who have realised that hate does not bring anything except destructions and therefore many have called for the others to change and be more diplomatical. Maybe not everything can be settled with words but that is definitely better than warlike protesting.
Basically, what I'm trying to say is, hate less, love more and forgive a lot. Do not hate people for what they've done wrong because we as humans always make mistakes.*Try not to repeat the same mistakes though* Love more people, and other living things. Do not hate them for what they are like some people who hate the Jews just because they're Jews and they say Jews are supposed to be hated as they are definitely no good. That's wrong because they can't choose to be born in what nation and because of that, it's definitely wrong to hate people for something they can't choose or control. And lastly, do forgive mistakes people make. If it's hard, just think that you are also the same as them. You also make mistakes to people and sometimes you didn't even notice it. Therefore, pray that when you forgive them, you will also be forgiven. That's all for tonight. Thank you for reading. Chiao. n_n


~Lonymous~