Doktor, Itu Je?

Ossu! Pekabo?

     Alhamdulilah, dah 4 bulan menjejakkkan kaki masuk clinical years.  Jauh lagi perjalanan nak jadi  seorang doktor tapi tak apa, pelan-pelan kayuh orang kata. Mohon semua doakan. Dah jadi doktor nanti, mana tahu dapat menyumbang jadi salah seorang penulis Diagnosis ke. Hehe. Tinggi benor cita-cita. Dah, jom sambung cerita. Cerita ni inspirasi dia (ceewah) datang lepas kena sound dengan doktor pakar dalam klinik ortopedik.

    Masa tu lebih kurang pukul 1 tengah hari, saya dengan member join klinik seorang doktor pakar ni. Doktor ni pakar tulang jadi klinik dia memang dari pagi sampai petang untuk layan pesakit yang ada masalah berkaitan. Nak jadi cerita, datanglah sepasang suami isteri, muda lagi, bawa anak perempuan mereka ke klinik. Adik ni patah tulang selangka (clavicle) dalam dua-tiga minggu lepas sebab terjatuh masa main lompat-lompat atas sofa. Budak-budak biasalah, buas.

     Dari mula-mula masuk pintu lagi adik ni dah menangis, sambil dipujuk ibunya. Dia nampak kami medical students pula, lagi kuat dia menangis. Mungkin sebab nampak kami pakai white coat, dia ingat kami nak cucuk dia barangkali. Ini antara dilema pelajar perubatan juga ni, nak buka white coat tak boleh, takut nanti tertukar dengan doktor-doktor lain pula, jadi kami semua cubalah pujuk dia sekali. Doktor sogok dia dengan gula-gula baru dia senyum sikit. Laju tangan dia capai gula-gula yang doktor hulur.

      Doktor cek x-ray dia dan kami yang bukanlah mahir sangat pun tengok x-ray, pun boleh tahu, pasti, tulang adik ni memang dah bercantum elok. Lega, doktor pun mula berbual dengan mereka. Muka suami isteri nampak lega betul bila diberitahu tulang anak mereka dah sembuh hampir sepenuhnya. Selepas selesai ambil history sikit, doktor cuba nak periksa pergerakan tangan adik ni. Just to make sure she really is fine. Adik tu mula menangis balik tak nak bagi doktor periksa dia. Doktor cuma senyum dan gosok kepala dia. Pap, adik tu tepis tangan doktor. Garang betul. Haha. Doktor geletek dia pula, dia ketawa dan sekali lagi dia tepis tangan doktor ke tepi pula.

     "Okaylah, dia tak nak bagi cek tak apa. Adik okay dah, tulang pun dah sambung elok, tengok tak ada apa-apa, kira tak payah datang lagi dah untuk apa-apa check-up," kata doktor. "Itu je doktor?" tanya si ibu. "Yup. Tulang dia dah sembuh sepenuhnya, dia pun sihat. Jadi itu sahaja, tapi kalau ada apa-apa lagi lepas ni, boleh telefon klinik dan dapatkan temujanji baru ya," balas doktor. Si ibu dan si bapa cuma senyum mengangguk dan keluar klinik selepas mengucapkan terima kasih.

     Dalam hati saya, saya boleh faham kenapa ibunya bertanya sedemikian. Doktor ni cek adik tu tak sampai 5 minit. Setakat tengok x-ray, dah boleh discaj pesakit. Macam..."WHAT????" Tangan dia pun doktor tengok macam tu sahaja, range of motion okay ke tidak, sakit ke apa ke, tak ada pula dia cek. Tapi kita yang student, dia yang pakar, mana berani nak tanya. Hentam sajalah Labu. Maka di situlah bermulanya saat kepahitan. *bunyi pintu terbuka macam dalam filem seram*

     Doktor berpaling ke belakang, dan mula bertanya kami berbagai soalan. "Adik tu kenapa saya discaj?" Krik krik krik. "Berapa lama tulang budak-budak ambil masa untuk sembuh?" Diam. "Awak rasa tulang dia macam mana?" "Tengok x-ray okay doktor." "Clinically macam mana? Patient depan mata awak, tengok x-ray tak aci."Diam lagi. Mana kita nak tahu, tengok doktor pun macam tak cek apa-apa, cuma x-ray. Silap besar rupanya. Kami yang buta.

     "It's okay then since this is your first week. You have to be perceptive and know what you want to see. Patient paeds (kanak-kanak) kita tak examine macam adult. Contoh tadi, saya tengok range of motion dia full. Tengok dia punya tangan masa ambil gula-gula dengan saya tadi kan? Tinggi dia capai gula-gula atas kepala dia. Lepas tu tengok tak dia tepis tangan saya masa saya cuba geletek dia dengan gosok kepala dia? Means power pun okay. Dia pun tak menangis sakit ke apa therefore I know, clinically patient is fit for discharge. And supported with the x-ray findings. Macam tu caranya nak periksa pesakit paeds tapi tak apa, you have a long way to go," ajar doktor pakar tu bersungguh-sungguh. Malu kita ni sebab ragu-ragu dengan doktor sendiri, kita yang tak tahu, kita kata dia tak periksa. Buta kayu.

     That happened almost 6 weeks ago and it reminded me of many viral posts trying to shame healthcare workers. Nurse pakai baju ketat, doktor tidur dalam wad, doktor tak pandai jahit luka buat macam guni katanya dan entah apa lagi yang saya sendiri mungkin terlepas pandang,Sekarang ni kan zaman viral, semua benda nak viral. Daripada yang baik ke yang buruk, yang neuron otak kurang bersambung, yang buat putus urat kentut ketawa, macam-macamlah. Yang sedihnya, lebih ramai (especially rakyat Malaysia) yang suka viralkan benda-benda yang bukan sahaja tak berfaedah, buat cari gaduh, lepas tu entah betul ke tidak sampai buat diri sendiri nampak lagi bodoh. Dasar keyboard warrior.

     Point here is, janganlah mudah-mudah menjatuhkan maruah pekerja kesihatan atau sesiapa sahaja yang cuba sehabis baik untuk membantu anda. Kalau ada yang tak puas hati, minta penjelasan. Doktor memang ditugaskan untuk memahamkan pesakit setakat mana yang pesakit mahu tahu. Kalau anda nak tahu sampai tahap doktor pakar pun, dia memang akan cuba jelaskan sebaik mungkin. Macam doktor pakar dalam cerita di atas, ada kemungkinan kalau orang nak buat hal, boleh saja dia tangkap gambar doktor tu dan tulis satu post dalam Facebook, "Doktor Pakar Malas Periksa Pesakit." Sedangkan in reality, doktor tu memang dah periksa apa yang sepatutnya diperiksa. Puluhan tahun pengalaman, ribuan bilangan pesakit yang dah dirawat, kita tak ada semua tu. Makanya jangan memperbodohkan orang semudah makan kacang menglembu. Macam lembu je orang pandang kau nanti. Bergurau ja noh. Take care guys. Ciao and have a nice day. :)


~JAW~

Dear Girls

Author's Note: You may want to listen to the song #6 in my playlist while reading this, Trevor Wesley - Chivalry Is Dead. Why? You'll understand soon enough. n_n

Definition of 'Lady' according to Merriam-Webster Dictionary :

a) a woman who behaves in a polite way.

b) a woman of high social position.

c) a man's girlfriend.

Jaw's conclusion : a woman who's well-mannered and knows how to treat herself right and in turn rendering others to treat her the way she wants naturally(voluntarily).

~~~

Dear girls,

you wear tight shirts to go on a jog, shoving your chest to everyone's face, yet when guys stare at them, you glare saying they're perverts who have nothing better to do. You forget that even girls' eyes bulge when they see you and talk behind your back. If you care that people look at your bouncy flesh when you run, why not wear something loose? Saying things like I can wear what I want and people shouldn't stare is like you having a bicycle but you never lock it and when people steal it, you blame them and say, "It's my bike. I have the right to lock it or not but they don't have the right to steal/use it." Yeah it's true but don't you think that is being less smart?

Dear girls,

you wear fit, short pants to gym, skin-coloured to boot, and when you sweat, your undies shows. Again, when a guy suddenly stares at your booty, you yell at him for looking but then, isn't it of your own doings? Don't you think to be angry is not really what you're supposed to feel at that time but to be ashamed is more appropriate. Yes, it's hot when your workout so you want to wear something comfortable. Okay, we get it but that's the price you have to pay for wearing something like that, guys and girls staring at you. Pay it if you're willing to but if not, again, wear something else that makes you feel less degraded. I mean, won't you stare if a guy walks into the gym wearing only boxers while exercising?

Dear girls,

don't you want to be a lady? To be treated in a dignified manner as you deserve? *sings*

"So I must open doors and make you feel like the lady you are. My momma raised me to be classy not flashy I'm happy to please you~ Girl, let a real man pick up the slack and treat you with respect, yeah." Trevor Wesley - Chivalry Is Dead

Not all men are dogs. A real man will treat you with respect, they won't do things that may cause you discomfort but let's get real, these men are not someone you see everyday, everywhere. Gentlemen are rare breed. However, guys will treat you right if you let them but that means, you need to know how to treat yourself right first. How you act defines how most people will act to you. So, to be treated as a queen or a slut? Your choice, ladies.

Dear ladies,

pardon my rudeness. I am not saying wearing tight shirts, short pants and the likes of it makes you less of a lady. If you want to wear them and you won't blame people for staring, then go ahead and wear what you like. All I'm saying is, people treat you how you point them to. Your dressings, the way you act will be enough to tell people that. And if people do as said above (staring at your body) when you are leading them to, blame yourself first instead of saying men are dogs because we can also say things like women are bitches. Sorry for the crude words, but I feel it's necessary. 

I'm sorry if this post hurts you in anyway, tell me what's wrong with it and if you have suggestions, a better way to make the point, I'm glad to hear it so leave a comment. Take care and ciao.

~Jaw~

Answers

A friend asked me why do I write? So here's my answer.

It started as a childish idea, blogging was a hype back then, semua orang ada blog, tulis pasal sekolah, arguing with friends yada yada yada. Honest, I was one of them. That was how I started.

Few years passed, reading blogs like The Other Khairul and Kereta Mayat kinda changed the way I think about how a blog can be used. So mulalah langkah terkedek-kedek, bertatih whatever dalam menulis useful stuffs. But that doesn't answer the question. Jaw, tolong fokus. XD

Ada orang tegur lately, kau tulis untuk sampaikan mesej ke, nak femes ke, macam mana ke? Then, you know what happens next. Sesi ceramah about niat berjam-jam which even until now is still ongoing, every week and I'm really thankful for that. Ada juga orang tegur about photos and stuffs. I get quite a number of reminders from total strangers and friends alike.

That's the answer. This is why I write. Dengan menulis, orang akan tengok kau, so in a way it makes you conscious of what you do. Nak buat jahat pun beringatlah sikit jadinya. Probably. And another thing, orang akan keep on saying things to you, bad and good but whichever it is, it helps push you to keep on improving. Walaupun yang kurang menyenangkan tu sangat meruntun hati kekadang, tapi ku gagahkan jua. Ewah.

Ada juga tanya, kenapa nak set status public? Mencapab la tu. 

Again, an honest answer dudes and babes, kekadang tu memang ada, but when that happens, I never click post. Tunggu a few days, bila niat tu rasa dah betul, baru post balik. And sungguh tak tipu, I have people, total strangers, who reads my statuses, my blogs and sometimes they would PM me to say thanks. Most of them would say things like, keep on writing bro.

So niat kat sini, nak ajak dear friends, jom tulis benda-benda yang berguna. Tak perlu panjang macam ni pun. Because you never know, random people might read your statuses, blogs etc, and who knows, it may help them with their problems. Maka, jadilah satu kebaikan buat korang, walaupun mungkin time tu korang terbongkang tidur atas katil. n_n 

Adios amigos. Ciao.

~Jaw~

Kenapa Hari Raya Korban Dalam Islam Tidak Kejam (Logik, Ringkas)

Yo. 

     Semalam saya sempat berbual-bual di Fb dengan beberapa orang Kristian dan juga atheis mengenai Hari Raya Korban umat Islam. Ada yang mempersoalkan dan tak kurang juga yang mengutuk sambutan tersebut. 

"Selamat membunuh binatang wahai sahabat Islam. Ritual yang tidak disenangi oleh kaum lain tapi menjadi kebanggaan oleh Jihadist. Tuhan mereka sentiasa kehausan darah sebab itu mereka (Islam) suka bunuh membunuh." -Murtads in Malaysia and Singapore

     Marah? Eloklah kalau anda like page tu dan pergi jelaskan pada orang-orang di situ dengan sebaiknya. :)   That page needs more tolerant and knowledgeable Muslims to explain things to them. Mereka akan guna sains, politik, falsafah dan macam-macam lagi untuk merendahkan Islam. Kalau ada yang pakar dalam bidang-bidang ni, bagus juga kalau boleh bantu saudara-saudari seagama kita yang sedang berusaha membetulkan persepsi buruk terhadap Islam. Bersatu teguh, bercerai roboh. Ye idok? XD

     Here are a few logical reasons I can think of which hopefully will open the eyes of anyone who thinks korban is nothing but violations of animal rights.

1. Binatang yang bakal dikorbankan akan dijaga sebaik mungkin. Diberi makan dan minum yang cukup juga dipastikan sihat dan tidak cacat.
2. Binatang tersebut perlu mencapai had umur yang ditetapkan. Tidak boleh terlampau muda atau tua. Contoh bagi lembu dan kambing, umurnya telah sampai dua ke tiga tahun.
3. Binatang tersebut perlu disembelih dengan pisau yang tajam supaya dapat mempercepatkan kematiannya. 
4. Setiap hasil daripada binatang korban tersebut, kulit, daging, organ dalaman, tulang dan lain-lain digunakan sepenuhnya tanpa pembaziran. Tidak seperti korban dalam ritual-ritual lain dimana binatang tersebut dibakar atau lain-lain tanpa memberi hasil kepada sesiapa. i.e. Holocaust.
5. Daging-daging tersebut akan dibahagikan mengikut tuan dan akan disedekahkan kepada orang-orang miskin, dibuat jamuan untuk orang ramai dan juga untuk makanan sendiri. Bukankah itu satu kebaikan? 
6. Bilangan binatang yang dikorbankan hanya mengikut bilangan orang yang ingin berkorban dan mampu melakukan serta membayarnya. Bermakna tidak ada binatang yang disembelih sia-sia tanpa ada yang menginginkannya. 

     Lagipun, saya rasa kalau nak berlebihan mengutuk Islam dalam bab ni, bukankah setiap hari juga memang banyak binatang yang disembelih untuk memenuhi pasaran daging di seluruh dunia? Kalau tak, mana nak dapat bacon, ham dan macam-macam lagi? Eh lupa. Kerbau pendek tak ada leher kira sembelih juga ke? Hehe. XD

     Korban dalam Islam ini bukanlah persembahan seperti ini:
Situasi 1: "Allah, inilah korbanku. Harap kau suka dan tidak menurunkan bala kepada aku."
Atau,
Situasi 2: "Allah, ini korban kami. Hapuskan musuh-musuh kami."
It is actually more of,
Situasi 3: "Allah, terima kasih kerana memberi rezeki yang banyak kepadaku maka dengannya aku mampu berkorban (baca:bersedekah) pada tahun ini sebagai tanda bersyukur terhadapmu."

     Hari Raya Korban dalam Islam sebenarnya lebih kepada untuk mengajar umatnya supaya tidak berlebihan dalam menyayangi harta mereka dan cinta kepada Allah yakni Tuhan Yang Satu itu lebih utama. Dengan berkorban sedikit daripada harta mereka diharapkan dapat memberi rahmat kepada diri sendiri dan juga orang lain. Well, shortly, that's it. Nak pergi beraya pula ni. Hehe. Take care brothers and sisters dan selamat berhari raya. Makan tu jangan sampai tak ingat dunia. XD

~Jaw~

Sense of Superiority

Peace be upon you.

   A few weeks ago, I received my scholarship. Praise be to God. (Happy) I remembered when I was in first year, the scholarship for 3 critical courses, Medicine, Dentistry and Pharmacy will definitely be given to the new students who were offered these courses. That was 3 years ago. And just this year, this condition is no longer applied and students who were offered these courses are no longer considered special  and they have to compete with the others for scholarship.

   Then the talks spread. "Medical student should be given priority man. We worked hard to get here." More, "I feel so neglected now. I had to bust my ass during foundation, went to interviews, managed to get offered, but I'm the same as the others? S***". More, "Dentistry is not cheap. I've been burning the candle at both ends trying to get scholarship and they don't even care. FFF---".

   To tell you the truth, I once had the same feeling. The sense of being superior than the others. It's not obvious, but it's definitely there. Many of these students are not arrogant but, being human, they just can't avoid it. I wonder if there's anyone who really can avoid feeling superior even this subtle.

   For me it's normal to feel that way, but it's not normal to continue feeling that way once you have realised it. Sense of superiority is an insidious notion. It eats you to the very core, really slowly, it grows, and once you passed the threshold, I don't even know what will happen.

This video has a very good ending. If you don't feel like watching the whole video, skip to timeline 3:40. 

     This is only one example very close to me. I bet all of you have at least one near you. Perhaps 'very' near. 

"Rezeki Tuhan bagi, kita jangan sombong. Mendapat sesuatu itu rezeki, tak dapat sesuatu, itu juga rezeki. Jangan ingat kita sahaja yang berusaha keras (kononnya) dan geng-geng kursus lain tu sememangnya kurang layak berbanding kita. Tuhan sahaja tahu, mungkin mereka jauh lebih kuat berusaha daripada kita." - Anonymous

I think this is very true. Thank God this insight were given to me by a brother and I hope to make more notice this because it feels too right that we often ignored it. Even if it's hard, at the very least, let us try our best to clean our heart of  ego.

~Jaw~

Heaven And Hell (My Story)

   

   Hello and peace be upon you dear readers. It's been a few months since I last wrote anything on this blog and now I feel kind of rusty. Anyway, I hope you're in good health and happy wherever you are. As for me, I'm back in hostel and trust me, the only thing I miss about this place is it's fast Wi-fi connection. Haha. But still, I'm thankful for I can finally update my blog. n_n

   I've been studying away from home for quite a number of years, more or less about 6 years now and staying home during holidays were never boring for me. Among all things I do during my holidays, there is one thing that I never missed in any of it. Reading. People asked me how can you keep doing that after all these years (it's not that long, LOL). Well, my answer is simple. Reading is inspiring. And I'm going to share with you one of the inspirations I got during my recent holiday.

   Have you ever heard of the book Have A Little Faith by Mitch Albom? It's a very nice book talking about the lives of two Men of God and how they, leading a simple life but managed to create a great community (and it's a true story). Being a Muslim, all the books I've ever read of this kind or genre are stories of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), about his friends, about famous Muslim scholars etc. I am ashamed for being so narrow-minded. This book certainly changes the way I think about Christianity, Judaism, Hinduism, Buddhism and other religions therefore leading me to rethink about the concept of afterlife and of heaven and hell.

   Back in the year 2000, I remember being taught that Muslims go to heaven no matter how bad they are as long as they have even as much as a tiny speck of iman (faith) and all the non-Muslims will go to hell no matter how much good they do because they don't have iman. Of course there are other things such as purgatory etc but that can wait. At that time, I questioned nothing and I accepted it blindly. Just as my friends did, just as many other Muslims of my age did.

   However, reaching the age where I can think rationally, how can I accept that? It feels so unfair. I was questioning myself how can Allah (God) be so cruel? How can He do that to His own creations? I understand it if He punishes the wrong-doer but why punish the good non-Muslims too? But please be reminded, even though I have this kind of questions, not even once have I doubted Him or my religion. It's just that these questions lingered in my mind for a few years, unanswerable until fairly recently.

   I got interested in religious books (not limited to Muslim books only). I listen to tazkirah (preaches) more often. I listen to non-Muslims debates and preaches too. And I talked to everyone, Muslims and non-Muslims about my beliefs and their beliefs. After some time, I know a bit more about different religions. The questions I had were answered by many of those books, people, videos etc and the answer is actually pretty simple. Allah (God) is the Judge and we, the creations, cannot judge as He does. We cannot say this guy's bad, he will definitely go to hell, this guy's good, no worries for him, he'll definitely reach heaven. Simply said, let Allah (God) do His job, we do ours', that is to please Him by doing good to everyone and avoid doing anything He forbids.

" '...Our sages tell us to repent exactly one day before we die.'
But ho do you know it's the day before you die? I asked.
He raised his eyebrows.
'Exactly.' "

   As far as my limited knowledge allows, I don't think there is anyone who walks on this Earth and judge every single person he meets. "Hell, heaven, hell, hell, heaven..." If there is, I think the first one he should judge is himself. Remember, don't judge a person by his past or his present for he might change for the better in the near future and you might turn for the worst. Who knows.

   To conclude, do not worry about questioning your own religion because that is how you learn and I believe it strengthens your faith too. Learn to tolerate with others and help everyone no matter who they are. And here is a video for my friends who might be wondering what Islam has to say about this matter. Enjoy. That's all for tonight.Thanks for reading. Ciao.


~Jaw~

Blessing or Plight

Amphitheatre

A speck of dust born into infinity

Hardly significant however noteworthy

Yet rushed with sensations cold and hearty

Coalitions form precipitating entity.

Extended is the red string of fate

In quest of ostensible soulmate

King of kings often forgotten in the crusade

Muse upon it lest degrade.

The king encounters queens of night

Shine they will but rather too bright

Darkness perish in the flurries of light

Howbeit one wonders a blessing or a plight?

Ultimately no more than a chick

Sovereign set the stage for the last click

Better ready for the eleventh tick 

Amphitheatre permanently erected brick by brick.


~Jaw~

Wanita Perlu Jaga Rupa

Peace be upon you. Yo everyone. Waddap? I'm doing great, really great. Hope you're the same. Walaupun baru jugak update sebenarnya, tapi terasa macam nak jugak update sementara idea tengah fresh. I just hope you guys will enjoy reading this. Maaflah sebab bahasanya mungkin kedengaran kasar sikit, campur dengan bahasa rojak sikit. XD

Mula-mula sekali nak cakap, aku tulis ni bukan nak memburukkan sesiapa. 100% jujur, ikhlas untuk bagi idea kat girls, betapa pentingnya jaga rupa. Banyak kali dah bersembang pasal ni dengan kawan-kawan perempuan yang lain, dan kebanyakkannya cop aku miang, gatal dan yang sewaktu dengannya lepas diskusi-diskusi tersebut selesai. Aiseh, ada kelas. Diskusi kau. XD   Terus terang cakap, aku tak kisah orang kata apa, aku tahu aku nak bini lawa jugak. Haha. Tapi, sebelum korang cop, "Mamat ni miang ah, etc", bagilah can dulu kepada hamba untuk menjelaskan. Boleh noh? Maseh. n_n

Jadinya, kongsi pengalaman dulu boleh kot. Pada suatu hari, *ewah* aku tengah lepak-lepak kat lab, tetiba ada sorang kawan perempuan aku ni tanya soalan luar alam. Langsung tak ada kena mengena dengan konteks pembelajaran. Lari terus macam Usain Bolt pecut 100 meter. Ok, itu mengarut. XD   Sambung balik, buatnya dok dalam makmal Biologi, boleh dia tanya dengan muka innocent, "Kau suka perempuan macam mana?" Pap. Kaku sekejap. Apa aku nak jawab ni? Jawab nak yang lawa, kang semua dub aku miang. Jawab nak yang muslimah, mangai, bunyi macam kerek pulak. Haha. Tapi, yang menariknya, logik aku, si budak belasan tahun masa tu, buat aku lagi rela dikata miang daripada kerek. Aku jawab, "Aku nak yang lawa, sejuk mata memandang, senang hati aku melayan." Korang tahulah consequence selepas tu. Tebal muka entah berapa lama menahan orang kata aku lelaki gatal. Gua miang? Come on la sisters. Untung aku jawab jujur, korang tanya orang lain, gerenti dia jawab, "I suka yang macam you." Eww, tolonglah. Haha.

Some girls still think of me like that. Lelaki miang, jangan didekati kalau tak nak miang melekat. Haha. Jadi terasa nak tulis kat sini, apa definisi lawa bagi aku, dan apa maksud aku dengan, "Aku nak yang lawa, sejuk mata memandang, senang hati aku melayan." Let met start with the 'lawa' definition. Amaran, kau jangan kata "Tak sama pun macam dalam kamus." Fyuu, 'flying kiss' hinggap di pipi nanti. LEL. Definisi sendiri ni. Haha. Lawa atau cantik ni, bagi aku, maksud dia, sesuatu yang bila kita tengok, rasa senang hati. Kau tengok tandas bersih, kau senang hati. Apa kau kata? "Lawa tandas ni." Haha. Tak ke? Dush, mengapakah tandas juga yang menjadi contoh kau Jaw? *monolog dalaman XD* K fine. Contoh elok sikitlah. Tengok taman, korang rasa senang hati. Bunyi burung berkicauan keriangan, bunyi cengkerik sesekali memecah kesunyian. Berbumbungkan langit biru, ku lena dalam pelukan angin yang menghembus dingin. Ewah. Apa korang kata? "Lawa taman ni." Haha. Rasanya cukup terang dah penjelasan yang diberi. Basically, I define everything that is nice to see as 'lawa'. Senang, mudah, indah, apa ke jadah. Eh? As simple as that. 

Kemudian, pasal "Aku nak yang lawa, sejuk mata memandang, senang hati aku melayan." Ayat ni serius mudah untuk disalahfahami oleh orang-orang yang prejudis terhadap saya. Haha. If you know me, you'll understand that I mean no harm. Takde itchy-itchy punya. Aku cuma nak perempuan yang lawa di mata sendiri, bila tengok dia, hilang rasa letih and all dan end up aku rasa senang hati je nak melayan kerenah si dia. That's what I meant. Namun, masih ada kawan aku yang tetap salah faham walaupun dah dijelaskan sampai tahap ni. So, let me add some more. Kecantikan tu subjektif. Tak ke? What is beautiful for me may be ugly for you and vice versa. Beauties are in the eyes of the beholder. Dengan menggunakan perkataan tersebut, bukan bermaksud perempuan tu kena 36-24-36 (hourglass body shape) baru dikata lawa. Lawa jugak tak bermaksud perempuan tu kena ada badan macam Marilyn Monroe. Biar badan macam Adele tahun 2008 pun, kalau dah dengan tengok tu rasa senang hati, aku kata lawa jugak. Biarlah rupa tak sama macam Ella pun, kalau dah tengok senang hati, tetap aku kata lawa. Begitulah lebih kurang maksudnya.

Meh sini nak bagi sebab pulak kenapa wanita kena sentiasa jaga rupa. Dah memang jadi lumrah lelaki suka perempuan cantik dan seriously, korang sendiri pun tak nak orang lain tengok korang  macam pontianakkan? Setidak-tidaknya, pontianak pandai jaga rambut, baju dia pun putih berseri, sebab tu masih ada lelaki yang nak buat dia jadi bini. LOL. Contoh terbaik ni. XD  Aku sendiri dah mengaku tadi dan aku berani kerat jari *sekadar penegasan sahaja. LOL*, lelaki lain pun lebih kurang je. Kat sini perempuan yang kurang keyakinan diri selalu down ni. Rasa diri dia tak cantik, tak lawa, tak chumil la apalah. You're wrong. Apply the beauty is subjective concept. Biarlah ramai yang kata korang tak lawa pun, gerenti, akan ada jugak yang kata sebaliknya. Logik jugak bila fikir balik. Kalau semua kata kau lawa, mampus semua berebut nak buat kau jadi bini, perempuan lain acano? Hah? Mindblown. By the way, dengan jaga rupa, bukanlah bermaksud, kena mekap tebal-tebal, kena sambung kening etc. Cukuplah sekadar berpakaian yang buat korang rasa selesa. Yang penting kemas, takleh serabut-serabut, muka kena senyum sokmo, pakai tudung elok-elok, yang free hair, rambut biar tersusun rapi. Ala, macam korang keluar ngan kawan-kawan perempuan yang lain. Nothing too heavy, not too light. Takde nyer lelaki kata kau hodoh pakai tudung sarung, tapi cantik gila, meletup, kebabo bila pakai tudung Hana Tajima. Samo yo. Takde nyer kau jadi lagi cantik bila pakai heels berbanding pakai wedges ke apa. Please be noted that I am talking in a guy point of view. Pakailah tudung belit ke, tudung bawal ke, tudung Mawi ke Yuna ke, lelaki tetap nampak tudung je. Pakailah kasut ke, heels ke, Converse ke, selipar ke, lelaki tetap nampak alas kaki. Samo yo. Aku bagi korang RM10 kalau boyfriend korang puji, "Lawa tudung Mawi you hari ni. Tinggi betul wedges you. Pakailah heels tinggi langit pun, I akan tetap sambut you kalau you jatuh." Yucks. Haha.

LOL. I should stop now. Sebelum kena sumpah jadi batu dengan mana-mana perempuan yang baca post ni. Haha. Few last words to my girl friends *jarak eh.ada senggang di situ*. Just be yourself. There'll be guys who think you're beautiful without you even trying to make them think that. DAN SAYA TAK MIANG. Terima kasih. XD

~Jaw~

SPM

Peace be upon you. Hey guys. 'Ssup?  Sihat macam biasa harapnya. n_n   This post is meant for my SPM 2013 friends. So, how's your result? Amacam? Tak ada sorang pun yang update status kat Facebook pasal keputusan SPM. Or is it only me who didn't notice? Haha. Anyway, tahniahlah sebab berjaya jugak menghabiskan hampir semua pergantungan pada zaman persekolahan. Believe me, that's an achievement. Ramai je budak sekolah lain yang berhenti separuh jalan. So, give yourself some applause. Keputusan SPM, tolak tepi sekejap. n_n   And, before I forget, to those SPM 2013 friends from MRSM Kubang Pasu, don't worry. I saw the MRSM ranking just now and yeah. We are not in a good position. Tapi, apalah sangat yang ada pada ranking. Keep calm and love KUPA. Nothing else matters as long as you learnt something you can use in your next phase of life.

So, here begins my real post. XD   Tahniah kepada mereka yang berjaya, yang kurang berjaya, kena sentiasa ingat, Allah memberikan yang terbaik buat kita. So, don't give up hope on Him.

"O my sons! Go ye and enquire about Joseph(Yusuf) and his brother, and never give up hope of Allah's Mercy, truly no one despairs of Allah's Mercy except those who have no faith." [Yusuf : 87]

I experienced what you are currently going through and I do believe that gives me some credits. From my experience, believe me, SPM doesn't mean everything. It doesn't even mean 50% of that. Jaw bagi lebih kurang 20 peratuslah. 10% untuk dapat pujian daripada orang lain. 10% lagi untuk masuk ke universiti yang elok-elok(kalau ada yang rancang nak ambil diploma atau asasi), tak pun, untuk peluang masuk ke matrikulasi(you don't need to get straight A's for entry to matriculation by the way). Serius! So, you don't have to worry much. Jadi, kalau korang merungut kat kucing pasal result, tolong hentikan. Kalau korang rasa macam diselubungi oleh awan hitam, pembawa musibah yang berpanjangan, dengan kilat sabung-menyabung macam nak sambar korang, tolong hentikan. 

What you should do now?

1. Bersyukur dengan keputusan yang anda dapat, ucap terima kasih pada Tuhan. I know it's cliche, but yeah. A good believer should do that.

2. Think a lot about where you want to further your study and who or what you want to be in the future. You are now at the stage to decide this but you can delay it a bit longer. If you need to delay it, go for matriculations or foundations in UM or UiTM. If you've decided, choose and fill in your UPU form wisely. Apa-apa pun, ukur baju di badan sendiri.

3. Chat with your parents, teachers, seniors, etc. Always ask their opinions on what options do you have, what to choose, and everything else you might need. 

4. Prepare yourself for interviews. Korang bakal menerima surat, mesej, ditelefon, dll oleh banyak pihak untuk temuduga. Universities, scholarship givers, third parties etc are itching to give their money/courses to you, as long as you are competent.

5. Always check, check and check, on news about scholarships, universities offers etc. Masa ni, boleh kata hampir setiap hari korang akan dengar benda-benda baru. These informations can be easily obtained from the associated websites, newspapers, advertisement in television, Karnival Masuk U etc. *don't forget to follow MH370 news too. n_n

6. Last but not least, enjoy your remaining holidays. Jarang sangat dah dapat merasa cuti panjang macam ni nanti. So, spend it wisely. n_n

I have nothing much too say. Just, if you have anything. Anything at all. Nak cerita pasal keputusan SPM korang ke, nak tanya soalan pasal biasiswa ke, nak tanya pasal asasi ke, nak tanya pasal USM ke, nak tanya apa-apa je. Please do. Inbox me or post on my Facebook wall or comment here or text my phone, doesn't matter any way, any time. I'll be glad to help as much as I can. May Allah bless you guys and have nice everyday. XD

~Jaw~

Connecting People. Read, Marriage

Peace be upon you. Hi guys. A very beautiful Friday isn't it? Friday is always enjoyable for me since it's the start of my weekend. Not for most of you though. Too bad. Haha. Anyway, enjoy everyday and live it to the fullest since none of it will rewind for you if you missed something. Kalau game, bolehlah replay save data bila terlepas apa-apa event. Real life... Takde can. XD   A friend asked me to write a 'jiwang' post. I said I can't and maybe, this is a good enough replacement? Haha. I hope so. So why do I choose to write about this?

Let's see... Rasanya idea ni mula-mula datang masa cuti seminggu yang lepas. My mom was driving and I sat quietly beside her when she suddenly said, "Fulan si kawan abang tu dah gatal nak kawen abang tau? Pening kepala mak dia. Macam mana nak bagitahu bagi habis belajar dulu." I did my eyyy??? face and wanted to reply, "Mak, dia pun dah tua. Kasi jelah dia kawen. Perempuan umur 25 nak kahwin abang rasa, abang rasalah, dah betul dan sesuai sangatlah tu." Akan tetapi, disebabkan hamba ini segan sikit nak sembang pasal kahwin ni dengan mrs. mommy, hamba cuma reply, "Oh, dengan boifren dia la tu." Huhuhu. Oh by the way, I must tell you that I'm thinking here using a Muslim's point of view. I know many of my non-muslim friends who are quite against early marriage, even some Muslims do. Well, for them 25 is early, not for me. Haha. However I must tell you this, for Muslims, couple-relationship is not something to be taken lightly. Simply said to make non-muslim understand, it's something not allowed in many situations. I repeat, many situations but not all. For you, a man and a woman hanging out together, eating together etcetera-ing together is something normal but, in Islam, it's not allowed except if a family member is also there and he or she must be old enough to think what's good and bad. So, to avoid this, Islam encourages marriage. n_n

The situation at this moment, I see my friends, younger, older, peers, many of them are thinking of getting married and quite a number of them have this so called 'calon terbaik untuk aku'. Haha. It's very funny because this is the exact 'noun' I've been hearing since I was 14. Kapel kapel dengan 'calon terbaik untuk aku' tu, last-last break jugak. LOL. *jahat sungguh gelakkan kawan* Sorry. XD Anyway, what I'm trying to say here is, if you're still young, just don't pay so much attention on this kind of things. Bukan apa. Benda diluar kawalan orang kata. When you grow older, you'll see more of that 'calon terbaik untuk aku' and with so many choices, how can you say they're the best? n_n   Senang sangat kita melayan perasaan yang dok bertukar-tukar. Sekejap dia tu, sekejap dia ni. LOL. Mainan perasaan semua tu. Just stay single and wait for the right time. How to know it's the right time? I think I kind of know how, so keep reading. XD *LOL-ing for the same mistakes I made. muehehe*

You see, the younger people nowadays tend to think early marriage is a good thing and in contrast to that, the older generations think early marriage is mostly a disaster. Bukan semualah, tapi ini yang Jaw nampak. The younger ones, in a way, I can say that they're religiously conscious but in another way, they're lacking in experience. I'm not saying the older generations are not religious though. They're just more experienced with life that they include in their frame of thinking not only religious values but also their life experiences. Kita yang muda ni fikir mudah je. Kena kahwin cepat, tak baik kapel lama-lama. Kena kahwin cepat, berdosa kapel ni. Kena kahwin cepat, aku nak anak 3 sebelum umur 30. Haha. Express baq hang. Yang berumur ni diorang tak macam tu, diorang fikir jauh sikit. Nak kahwin muda, hidup sendiri pun tak stabil lagi. Nak kahwin muda, duduk pun rumah parents lagi. Nak kahwin muda, asyik tengok televisyen lagi. Lagi teruk, layan kartun lagi. *akulah tu* Haha. Macam manalah ibu bapa korang ada rasa nak bagi korang kahwin kalau dah macam tu perangainya. XD   If you do want to get married early, show them you're responsible, reliable and it's way better if you have some sort of income. Kalau tak ada, bukan tak boleh, tapi kena buat perancangan kewangan dan tunjuk dekat keluarga. Diorang masa tu gerenti bangga, "Pfft. Anak aku dah matang." Haha. I've heard some say, "Sebelum kahwin, yang lelaki kena pastikan ada 3 kunci yakni kunci kereta, kunci pejabat, dan kunci rumah." Being a man sucks la like this. Suck it up brothers. We can do this. Haha.

Baru-baru ni Jaw ada terbaca satu quote. It says 'When nikah(marriage) becomes expensive, zina(fornication) becomes cheap, so keep weddings as SIMPLE and AFFORDABLE as possible.' I agree with it 100%. Buat orang Islam, cuba fikir mengenai hadis-hadis ni:

"Carilah untuk dijadikan mas kahwin walaupun sebentuk cincin yang diperbuat daripada besi."(Riwayat Bukhari )

"Sesungguhnya wanita-wanita yang paling diberkati dan menjadi keutamaan adalah yang paling rendah mas kahwinnya." ( Riwayat Ibn Hibban) 

Both of this hadiths showed us one thing. That is cheap mahar is not a problem and in fact, it's a good thing. I'm not saying you cannot ask for fifty thousand of dowry, and I'm not saying that's expensive either. Dah kalau kau kahwin dengan jutawan, itu kira murahlah bagi dia. Mana aci mintak murah-murah ngan dia. Kenalah mahal sikit. Haha. Gurau je. It's up to you to ask for how much as long as that guy can afford it without so much trouble, insyaAllah, that will be okay. Tapi kalau sampai nak bagi mas kahwin pun kena berhutang, abang-abangku, tak payahlah. Cari lain je. Muahaha.

Finally, how to know it's the right time. I have a simple view in this matter. Once you have the candidate, get to know them better. Bukan mesti dengan berkapel. Cuba tanya kawan dia, tanya kawan kita yang kenal dia, tanya cikgu-cikgu dia, tanyalah siapa-siapa yang patut. Kalau betul yakin, part one settle. Part two, check yourselves. Are you ready to become a husband or wife? Are you ready to share everything with your spouse? House, money, cars, foods, bed, shampoo and maybe, Gundam*ehh tersesat* etc. Are you ready to become a father or mother? Are you ready to forgive and forget the mistakes of each other? Are you ready to support a family in the making? Money is the least in the list. Responsibility, trust, hard work etc comes first. There are many more but to put it simply in a single sentence, are you ready for something new, bad and good? If your answer is yes for all the questions, then I must say, the right time has come. *cakap macam dah kahwin ooo. haha*

Moh ler kiter tamatkan post ni. The points I want you to get from this are:
1. Islam encourages marriage.
2. 'Calon terbaik untuk aku' mungkin bukan calon terbaik untuk anda. Trust me. Haha.
3. Jangan marah mak dan ayah anda kalau mereka larang anda berkahwin awal. Mereka hanya risaukan masa depan anda. Masih nak kahwin awal? Buktikan kepada mereka segala positif -ble anda. Able, reliable, dependable, responsible dan segala -ble-ble yang ada.
4. Bagi lelaki, pastikan anda ada 3 kunci sebelum berkahwin iaitu kunci kereta, pejabat dan rumah. Paling lekeh pun bang, kunci pejabat kenalah ada. n_n
5. Bagi wanita, mas kahwin murah-murah pun cukuplah. Nak jadi wanita yang diberkati tak? *senyum nakal. XD*
6. Bagi lelaki lagi, kalau dah mas kahwin perempuan tu mahal sangat, move on bro. Nampak gaya macam tak nak kahwin dengan kau je. *unless she tries to help you in any way to ease the burden, just move on*
7. If you're ready for the world, you're ready for marriage. n_n


~Jaw~

Give And Gain ; Teach And Learn

Please watch this. It may change your life.

Peace be upon you. Hey guys. How are you? I hope it's as good as I am or maybe even better. n_n   I'm seriously in a good mood. Holidays do that to everyone don't they? XD   I' m currently enjoying my final holiday in second year and just imagine, it's only for a week. Sob sob. Anyway, I had done a lot of fun things in these past few days and the most worth mentioning, the Big Bad Wolf (BBW) Fireball Sale. Wuuu. It was really cool, one place full of many cheap books. Readers' heaven I must say. If only I came by car, I might have bought 50 or more books in one swoop, seriously. The books are that cheap and rare. This kind of book fest should be more popularised throughout the country. Baru ada kick. Haha.

Alamak, dah melalut pulak. Haha. Let's get back to the topic. The title is actually inspired by a motto I learnt in a fasilitator training I went to a few months back. *Ya ke? Lebih kuranglah kot* The motto is, I give therefore I gain, I teach therefore I learn. Nicely put isn't it. Anyhow, the motto is totally not the reason behind this post I'm writing.

I told you I went to BBW sale right? There, a few friends gave me lots of things. One gave me books, one spends her time with me by becoming my feeless tour guide, some even offered me to stay at their house and many more. All of that was given or offered without me asking. They merely came out of sincere politeness. Thank you so much to these people. *I hope all of you are reading this* These gifts and offers I got made me think, people give me a lot of things and I give a lot too. A lot less. XD   How people can be so thoughtful of me and how thoughtless I am of them. Teruk gila ko. *shooking my head* Therefore, this post is written.

I thought to myself, I cannot be so selfish. I end up buying a few souvenirs for my siblings, treated my friend to lunch and yada yada yada. It felt good. It really felt as if I gain something by giving. As a matter of fact, it made me realise, it's the joy of sharing things through blogging that keeps me writing here. Sharing, giving, more or less the same isn't it? n_n   It's the joy that  matters.

So, here I am, to invite you to give, share, offer, whatever the words are. You don't have to give much. Anything is fine. What you give, you will definitely gain it back in other forms which might be even more valuable. You give a pencil and you get back a teacher? You give a piece of bread to a beggar and you get back more pieces of bread later on? Something like the video above might happen you know, paying for the kid's medication and food, which are affordable to you, and in the end he paid you back for your meds which are many folds more expensive than what you gave. Who knows. XD  

You see. During my school days, I was a mentor for English subject. *Not bragging here, just sharing experience n_n* English is a very hard subject for me and I seriously have trouble understanding some grammar rules. It took me years to understand is are was were, the ing, ed and other God only knows thingies. Just when I thought I had understand, came another words or sentences that confused me and I had to start all over again to understand them. Susah der. However, I tried my best to explain to my friends and you know what happened? The basic grammar suddenly makes sense to me and it feels a bit easier to understand. I teach therefore I gain is a true and possible in many ways. So, next time you find it hard to understand anything, why not try teaching it to your friends? *angkat kening ^_^*

The conclusion is, you never lose when you give. You always gain, gain and gain. Therefore, don't be afraid to give. n_n   Plus, if you expect people to give you things, people expect you to give them things too. Something mutual.  Let's make this world a better place by practicing something as simple as this. Mata ne.

P/s: It's my first post fully written using my tablet. Hard work. XD

~Jaw~

Life As Medical Students - Part 2

Lawl

Hey guys. Peace be upon you. A reader requested to me about a month ago, to write this second part of life as medical students. She wants a few things answered and they are, 

"short brief of what a med student gonna learn? like the subjects, and whats the good thing of being a med student or whats the best part of being in med school."

Therefore, here I am, trying to answer it as much as I'm able to. I'm not going to write here about anything else even if it's related, I will just answer the questions, or request.

Let me tell you very briefly about what medical students are learning. First, the subjects. It's really hard to write what the subjects are because there are a lot but I believe the basic subjects are bioethics, anatomy, physiology, embryology, genetics, microbiology, biochemistry, clinical medicine,  and pharmacology. I might have missed out a few things but please forgive me. XD

Bioethics, it's basically a subject which deals on what a doctor should or shouldn't do.

Anatomi, korang semua tahu ni, dari SPM dah belajar anatomi manusia. Mana kepala, mana kaki, mana tangan, semua tu la. XD   Tapi untuk pelajar perubatan, jauh lebih telitilah. And by 'teliti', I mean, get ready to study and memorize all the bones in your body, all the muscles etc. n_n

Physiology, hmmm, I would say it's a study of how our body systems function. Contoh, macam mana otot mengecut *betul ke istilah tu? haha. i was trying to say muscle contract*, macam mana mata melihat dan lain-lain. 

Embryology, study of embryo of course. How it develops in the womb from a single sperm to a baby .

Genetics, budak tingkatan 5 pun dah belajar sebenarnya, contoh, Hukum Mendel (Mendel's Laws). Lebih kurang gitulah subjeknya.

Microbiology, simply said, it's study of cells using microscope. What's nice about this is, you'll get a box of slides and you'll get a microscope. Sesetengah universiti bagi satu kotak slaid, kongsi dengan beberapa orang. It depends on the university. I've heard about one student getting a box of slides and a microscope in other universities. Apa pun, pinjam je, hujung tahun pulangkan balik. XD

Clinical medicine ni pulak dah mula belajar cara aplikasikan segala subjek yang dah dipelajari kat atas kepada pesakit. Kenapa badan jadi kuning, kenapa jari gemuk-gemuk, kalau ada semua tu, apa maksudnya, lebih kurang gitulah.

Pharmacology is basically study of everything related to the medicines, drugs or whatever you call it. What the drug does to the body and what the body does to the drug, something like that.

Take note that most of medical school nowadays use the integrative learning system as opposed to the traditional medical curriculum which separates the subjects such as physiology, anatomy, embryology etc. Integrative learning means all the body systems, for example, respiratory system, endocrine system, cardiovascular system etc are separated into blocks. Maksudnya, bila diorang belajar bab 'respiratory', semua yang berkaitan dengan sistem tersebut, anatominya, fisiologinya, patologinya, boleh kata hampir semuanya akan dipelajari dalam blok tersebut. Hope these help explain things a bit. Let's move on.

The final question is what's the good thing of being a medical student or what's the best part of being in medical school. This is hard. Lain orang lain cerita dia kan. Bagi Jaw, yang seronoknya jadi pelajar perubatan ni hari-hari dapat tengok awek lawa, mengorat sana sini sikit. Haha. Just kidding. Jangan marah aaa. n_n   I'd say the best thing for me is, you get to understand yourself better. Before this when your stomach makes a sound, you don't even care but when you've learnt that this sound is a significant clinical finding.. Terus kisah kau. Berapa kali berbunyi, kuat sangat ke tak, tah apa-apa. Haha. Lagi... I'd say it makes me more humble. Why? Because here, you will find so many more people who are smarter than you, more good looking *ok, itu tiada kena-mengena. haha*, more dependable, more everything. You are basically never going to be number one. At least not in everything. n_n   Biasalah, dulu kat sekolah boleh kata orang 'top' jugakla kan, sekarang pun 'top' lagi, 'top from the bottom.' Haha. Lastly, I'd say you'll have more chance to help the community. You'll join lots of these in Medical School. Some are compulsory, some are optional but anyway, you're going to help people and that's what matters.

That is all. I hope this post doesn't do injustice to any medical students or anyone. Have a nice day everyone. n_n


~Jaw~

Islam Teaches Domestic Violence?

This is so untrue. Refer to the Qur'an, Chapter 60 (Al-Mumtahanah), verses 8-9

Peace be upon you dear readers. n_n Hi !!! How are you guys? I'm sorry it took me a while to write a new post. I do have a few ideas and subjects to write about but I barely have enough time for my studies, let alone updating my blog frequently. Haha. However, this means you should look forward to more interesting updates from me. n_n   My sincere apologies too, to some of my readers who requested me to write on certain things because I cannot do it now, but if God wills it, I will write it as soon as I find the time. n_n By the way, please pray for me and also my friends because in about one week, we'll be having our first exam in 2nd year. Scary. ε=ε=(っ*´□`)っ We need all the lucks we can get, thank you. n_n

The story began last Friday, right after the Friday prayer, the Imam of the masjid where I prayed invited the men to perform another optional or voluntary prayer to wish to Allah for the safety of a Muslim Malaysian couple detained in Sweden for allegedly hitting their son. There are rumors saying that they never hit their son, just reminding. Only Allah and the family know the truth. It's said that the couple will be charged tomorrow. I can't help but wonder why is it taking so long for the trial to begin though. Hmm. However, I do hope that their case will be resolved without much difficulty. May Allah bless them. My intention in writing this post is to clear some misunderstandings related to this case, to the best of my knowledge, of both Muslims and non-Muslims alike. Some of the misunderstandings I want to address are, Islam is a violent religion that teaches its followers to beat their wives and kids, which is often misunderstood by non-Muslims, then about some Muslims who said that there's no such thing as beating your kids when they don't want to pray in Islam and finally, should Muslims obey the laws of non-Muslim country when they're living there.

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Islam is a violent religion that teaches its followers to beat their wives and kids. Is it true?

Dear readers, Islam is a religion of peace sent by Allah through his messengers. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) as the final prophet, completed his task by leaving two things for the whole world to read, follow and make a habit out of them, the Al-Qur'an and Hadith. These things, if followed, will prevent us from going astray. My cherished non-Muslim readers, I strongly suggest you to get a copy of Al-Qur'an and read it for yourself. You will see that not even a sentence tells the Muslims to be violent. If you find anything like that, go ahead and find a Muslim to attack him. If Allah wills it, I'm sure he or she will give you an answer or answers to justify it. 

Friendly reminders to my Muslim brothers and sisters, do not answer if you are unsure or don't know the answer. Tell the inquirer that you need some time to check with more knowledgeable people and you will get back to it once you have the answer. To say you don't know is more noble than giving incorrect answers for me. n_n   Please let me share with you one verse of the Qur'an that may have been the cause behind this misunderstanding. 

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend from their means. Therefore, the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard. As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (then) refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them; but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means. Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.” [An-Nisa' ; 34]

Even though this verse showed a lot of positive things but still, many non-Muslims and also some Muslims often mistook it as a violent teaching partly because of the word 'beat them'. Dr. Ahmad Shafaat explained this verse in very much details especially the beating part. Summary of his long explanation:

1. Beating is to be done after due admonition and suspension of sexual relations and therefore by husbands who have some moral standards and have sufficient control over their sexual passions. Moreover, this beating is not to go on and on but is to be tried as a last step to save the marriage. Once it is clear that it is not working it is to be abandoned in favor of some other steps involving relatives of the husband and the wife mentioned in the next verse (4:35).

2. The beating should not cause injury, bruise or serious hurt. Some scholars said that the beating should be largely symbolic and should be administered with a folded scarf, miswak (a teeth cleaning twig / kayu sugi) or some such things.

3. The wife has no religious obligation to take the beating and she can always ask for and get divorce any time.

4. If the husband exceeds the limits set down by Qur'an and Hadiths, the wife can take him to court and if ruled in favor, she can apply the law of retaliation and beat the husband as she was beaten. 

5. Some Muslim jurists said that beating is permissible but not always advisable because Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) intensely disliked the action. 

So, to my Muslim brothers, do not use this verse to justify yourself for wife battering. To my non-Muslim friends, please take note that, Qur'an doesn't simply tell its followers to beat people. It's only done as a last resort and not to mention all the rules and requirements which need to be fulfilled before beating them. I'd say it's most likely not done at all in a devout Muslim family. Plus, if the wife return to obedience, no further actions should be taken against them and no excuses should be made to punish them.

Beat your children if they don't want to pray. Is there such a thing in Islam?

Yes there is.

"Narrated by 'Amru Bin Syu'aib, from his father, from his grandfather he said, the Prophet (pbuh) said, "Command (teach) your children to pray when they are seven years old and beat (cane) them if they do not pray at the age of 10 and (at that age), separate their beds." (Sunan Abu Dawud, Isnad Hasan)

It's not a surprising thing for some Muslims to have not heard of this hadith since the education system nowadays is not focused on Islamic teaching anymore. However, please take note, this hadith exist therefore you cannot go and attack other Muslims saying they're kufr for creating something new in Islam.

In a paperwork by Y.B.S.S Dato' Haji Murtadza, Mufti of Negeri Sembilan, available in Web Rasmi Jabatan Mufti Kerajaan Negeri Sembilan, he wrote about 'Pendidikan Anak Dengan Solat'(Education Of Children Using Solat). He said this hadith explained about three things parents should do in the early education of their children namely *again, I'm summarizing it* :

1. Command to perform the prayers when they're seven years old

He said this command is directed to the parents where they should tell their children to pray after teaching them the requirements and rukun of solat. Islam encourages Muslims to teach their children the basics when they are still young and before they are preoccupied with works.

2. Beat them if they do not pray when they're at the age of ten

It's basically a concept of punishment for being careless. For information of non-Muslim readers, the five daily prayers are one of the most important commandments by Allah for the Muslims and to abandon the prayers is a very sinful act. That's the wisdom behind teaching the kids to pray when they are young so that they don't feel burdened by it when they're older. However, please remember that parents should not directly punish their kids when they don't perfom the prayers. Parents should try giving advices, tell stories of the Companions, and other things to their children. In fact, Islam encourages parents to be gentle (according to other hadiths and Qur'anic verses) and try to avoid from beating their kids in any way so that their children's psychological health are not disturbed. Beating the kids should come as a last resort and just like with the wives, it should not cause injury, bruise and serious hurt.

3. Separate their beds

Chilren who are ten years of age must (wajib) be given different beds especially between brothers and sisters. This aims to give them early exposure about social manners and aurah (intimate parts of human body).

Should Muslims obey the laws of non-Muslim country when they're living there?

Again, the answer is yes. Syeikh Abdullah Bin Bayyah wrote in Muslims Living In Non -Muslim Lands,

"It is absolutely essential that you respect the laws of the land that you are living in... You are living in a land in which the people are very serious about their laws, and if you break the laws, this can result in you being tried as a criminal and being sent to prison and being completely humiliated as a Muslim where non-Muslims are putting you in a cage and preventing you from your own human dignity of freedom and other things. So, it is essential that we remember that."

Sheikh Salman al-Oadah said,

"The Muslims living a non-Muslim country, even if they originally entered that country by means of forged documents, are considered to be living in their adopted country under a covenant. They must, therefore, comply with the laws of their country of residence without, at the same time, disobeying Islamic Law."

Both of these Muslim scholars said more or less the same thing. So in the case of Malaysian couple being detained in Sweden, I'd say *simply my own thought* they should just follow the laws in Sweden. My reason is, it's a sunnah and not wajib. A person will not be punished for not doing things which are sunnah and in this case, if you do it, you'll get punished. All the more reasons not to do it. Avoiding harms is also a sunnah right? However, please don't misunderstand me. I'm not saying we shouldn't follow sunnah and I'm not saying the couple is wrong *come on guys. it's an allegation, a claim made without proof* and I sincerely hope the trials will go on well for them. May Allah bless them.

Law abiding? Haha

Well, with all these explanations, are you still going to say Islam teaches domestic violence to its followers? I hope not and I pray that at least this post make the readers *and me* more interested to study about Islam. I am really sad when people say Islam is a violent religion. I hope after this, my dear Muslim brothers and sisters, we will improve ourselves, do good deeds and show good examples to the non-Muslims out there so that they're attracted to Islam. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) attracted all the Arabs in his time with his beautiful personality and we should follow him as close as we can. Please forgive me if I aggrieved any of you. Wallahua'alam. Allah knows the right.


~Jaw~

Cakap Perkara Yang Penting Sahaja???

Dōmo minna! Apa khabar orang kampung?! :p Pelik sungguh dengan diri sendiri kadang-kadang, pepagi buta masa nak tidur ni la selalu dapat idea nak update apa dalam blog. Hairan. *garu kepala* Anyway, this post is quite random. I was eating at a kopitiam just now *belanja diri sendiri makan selepas 'present' history depan doktor dan atas sebab beberapa kejayaan kecil yang lain. clap-clap  :)* and suddenly, the idea came.

Satu soalan, pernah tak korang kena marah sebab cakap benda yang 'tak penting'? Ada la kadang-kadang yang mungkin komen, "Kau ni suka cakap benda mengarut. Ketuk kang." *padahal bila dia berpaling kat orang sebelah, boleh pulak sembang pasal hensemnya hero Korea etc etc. As if that's not considered as nonsense or 'mengarut'. Haha*   Pernah kan pernah kan? If so, then how do you know whether what you're going to say is important or not? Perlu ke korang cakap pasal kerja, pasal agama, pasal negara dll semata-mata sebab disuruh berhenti bercakap mengenai benda-benda yang tak penting? Takkan kena cakap pasal benda yang serius sepanjang masa sebab kononnya nak cakap mengenai perkara yang penting je? Frankly, I would rather be a social recluse if that's all I'm allowed to talk about and I definitely do not how to talk only on the so called 'benda penting'. 

So, here's my idea on this topic. Kalau nak tahu apa yang korang nak cakap tu penting atau tidak, cuba fikir kaitannya dengan perbualan antara korang dengan kawan korang tu. Maksudnya, kalau orang tu tengah cakap pasal pelajaran, janganlah tetiba korang cakap pasal game pulak. Memang nak kena hempuklah. Haha. Lagi, kalau orang tengah cakap pasal anime, janganlah korang tetiba menjampuk cerita pasal politik pulak. *orang macam ni memang nak kena ketuk. XD*   Get what I mean? Orang kita kata, jangan nak tukar topiklah. Kalau orang cakap pasal agama, korang pun cakaplah pasal tu jugak, ataupun kalau dah tak reti sangat nak cakap apa, diam je. For me, that's basically all. As long as what you're trying to say is somehow relatable to what people are talking about, it can be considered as important *at least towards the conversation *. n_n   Lagipun, kekadang dengan bersembang benda 'mengarut' ni la yang dapat buat persahabatan kita lagi erat. Kekadang Jaw sendiri pun boleh bersembang dengan orang yang tak dikenali sebab kami tengok anime yang sama. Haha. Itu kira mantaplah tu. XD

However, there's one thing worth taking note. Tak elok banyak cakap benda-benda mengarut. Sikit-sikit sembang pasal game, sikit-sikit pasal drama Jepun/Korea/Taiwan/Hindustan etc. Memang buat orang menyampahlah. Haha. Bila serius, kita serius, bila main, kita main. *ayat standard kat memana kem XD*   As long as you can build a healthy relationship with people, your friends, and as long as your words do not aggrieve anyone, what's wrong with saying it? Kan? That's all for now. Thank you for reading and wait for the next update. Dōmo arigatou.

~Jaw~

The Creator

Peace be upon you. Hi everyone. How are you? Hope everything's great. It's been a while since my last update and I think it's not too late to wish to degree students, welcome back to your university. n_n
I am a bit unwell right now. Am having fever after eating too much durians. I guess that's why the elders always say that durian is hot. So be careful next time, take care not to eat too much durians or else you'll be having a bad day like me.  n_n

Actually, this post is aimed for the atheists and the idea to write this post came from the fact of me having fever after eating durians. I was strucked with an idea that I am very weak. WE!, humans are weak. All I did was eating about 20 peels of durians*that's a lot actually*, now I have fever and pain all over my body. Even my breath reeks of sulphur. Urggh. No wonder some people say, 'father of all illness is the stomach.' Therefore, when this idea came unto me, I thought about The Creator. When everything in this world is weak, where everything can get sick, there must be One that doesn't get sick and will be totally different from any creatures in this world. That from my point of view as a muslim is Allah, or for others, the God, The Lord of The World.

 Why did I think of this? Let me quote a part of Maher Zain's song, Open Your Eyes.

"Look around yourselves
Can't you see this wonder
Spreaded in front of you
The clouds floating by
The skies so clear and blue
Planets in the orbits
The moon and the sun
Such perfect harmony
                                     
Look inside yourselves
Such a perfect order
Hiding in yourselves
Running in your veins..."

This song is asking us to question ourselves about God by giving us some examples on how perfect everything in this universe works. A perfect harmony. For something so perfect, there must be a Great Creator. I believe each and every one of you has basic knowledge of biology. So, have you ever thought about the complexity and perfection of the order in our body? What sets the red blood cells to live only for about 120 days and then be recycled? Or, how come when your heart rate and your blood pressure falls, there will be all sorts of processes going on in your body to increase your heart rate and your blood pressure back to normal? Or, about how the pericardial space*space between your heart layers* contains fluid that lubricates the membrane surfaces that allows easy heart movement? These are only three examples of perfections out of many other things happening in our body. Just imagine if only these three are out of control, you might have anaemia when there is a problem with red blood cell recycling, you might also have hyper or hypotension when there is a problem with the regulation of blood pressure, and you might even feel pain for every heartbeat if pericardial space is not there. Therefore, isn't it just logical if there is a Creator for all of these perfections?

Let me tell you a story about a man who believes in God, The Creator of the Earth and the Universe and the atheists who said Earth existed naturally. The man who believes in God was invited by a few atheists to debate about existence of God. He agreed and on the day of the debate, he came late. All the atheists were angry and asked him why he's late. He answered, on his way, the only bridge connecting from his to place to this meeting place collapsed. The atheists were skeptical, yet they played along and asked, "Then how can you arrive here? If the only bridge that connects our places collapsed, it should take more than days to rebuild it. Yet, here you are." The man answered, while waiting, suddenly a tree collapsed in front of him. Then the tree cut itself into the shape of a boat and let him rode in it. That's how he managed to cross the large river. The atheists said, "Ridiculous. Tree cannot do that. It's impossible. It cannot cut itself even more so it cannot shape itself into a boat and let you ride in it. Only man can cut the trees and build a boat." The man answered, "The same goes to Earth. It's impossible for Earth to exist naturally with all these things inside it. Therefore there must be a Creator who created the Earth and all things inside it." The atheists got the point and became believers.

If you say there is no God because we cannot see Him, again let me quote from the same song by Maher Zain.

"What about anger love and pain
And all the things you're feeling
Can you touch them with your hand?
So are they really there?"

Can you see all these feelings? Of course you can't, so can I say these feelings do not exist? No, since we can feel them. Yeah, of course one of the favourite question and answer for this is you cannot feel God like your feelings, what makes you think that there is God? Also, not to mention the fact that you cannot see God. Actually, you can feel God and His Greatness. You just have to find Him first. However, let me give you one logical explanation though. As you might know, there are some bats that do not see colour. For these bats, perhaps they would never know about colour, because you can't feel colour, you see it. Just because these bats cannot see or feel colour, can we say that colour do not exist? No. Then, daaa. *Maher Zain-Open Your Eyes playing~~*

"Let's start questioning ourselves
Isn't this proof enough for us?
Or are we so blind
To push it all aside?
No.."

I think that's a long enough post. Of course there are many more questions left unanswered but I hope this is sufficient to at least make you think about The Creator therefore giving you a push to look for more information on Him. My post here is not about which God from which religions is true. I just hope that the atheists out there will find faith in God and I pray to God that you may find the way. To be dependent upon God is actually our nature as humans. If not, why does people from the old civilizations until now, build all these temples, zigurats, pantheon, masjids and all sorts of other places to pray to God? This fact shows that people are always in need of God and to be able to pray to Him is a reward none can compare. That's all for now. Thanks for reading. 

~Jaw~